why does my ex girlfriend come back to me every time she gets dumped?

Question

all she does is date useless hopeless guys who teat her like crap,when they have used her they dump her,then shell be on the phone to me crying and i get sucked in cos im nice.2 weeks later shell be off again with some other petty criminal and it all starts again wot is her problem and why am i such a mug.

Answer 1

Imagine every girl separates each guy she meets into a few categories. The annoying, the ok, the nice, the "longterm relationship type", and the ones she finds sexually attractive.

The fact is that women can't choose who they are attracted to. They see these "losers", "bad asses", and "jerks" as exciting. Its something that they can't turn off...its how they are wired. But this attraction can't really ever lead to a long term relationships.

Your ex will always run back to you until she jumps into another long term relationship. Unless, you tell her to stop. And you stop being such a nice guy. You have to realize that even after the sexual revolution, the one power that women still have that men don't is the mental ability to choose to have sex or not. We're just wired to take the opportunity. By saying "no" to having her around...you stop being a push over and will be open to moving onto something better.

Answer 2

Because you're probably safe, in the sense that you're the good friend who'll always be there for someone he even hates. You're also someone whos been in a position of trust and has probably never hurt her intentionally.

Women love having safety nets, men do too, if you make yourself less reliable, especially when she needs you, she'll find another safety net.

It also sounds like your talking about a younger girl <20. I've noticed when women hit the magic age group of 18-21, they USUALLY do a 180' and realize that they're doing something wrong and correct it, but by that time its too late.

Answer 3

Your not a mug, you clearly like her! She knows that your a nice guy and are safe, she does not want a relationship with you but you make her feel better each time she is dumped again, it's like steroids to a body builder, delete her number and dont answer her calls get out there and find someone else, your clearly a nice guy!

Answer 4

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/JzqIQ

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 5

She knows that your always gonna take her back so why worry about staying with you after all you made it too easy for her to just date who she wants and when it goes sower good ole you is gonna be right there. You gonna have to put your foot down and the next time she pulls that crap leave the door closed and don't answer the phone and maybe she'll stop trying to use you for her stand by man. Good Luck!

Answer 6

because your so desperate, she knows she can use you so she never has to be alone. Youre not doing either of you any favors though. She needs to learn to stand on her own or she will keep latching on to the first loser that comes along.
It will also prevent you from ever having a healthy relationship with a girl if you keep allowing this.
She doesnt want you and if you cant see that youre a fool. Say no from now on.

Answer 7

i`m not having a go at u here mate but u must grow a backbone where she`s concerned. she`s seeing u as an easy touch. tell her ur no longer interested and that u have ur own life to lead and that she`s been unfair in running back to u all the time. it`ll do u both good if u told her that

Answer 8

she's doing it to assure herself that someone loves her. when she gets dumped, she feels like no one cares for her anymore. so she goes to the one person who she knows will care for her.

but it sounds to me like she only cares about herself. she uses you when she needs you and then just throws you away. but i'm exactly like you, i'm such a pushover...

the next time she does this, confront her gently. she'll be hurt from a breakup, so tell her that you're concerned about her dating habits and the people she goes out with. she's probably going out with them for the short burst of fun because she is so desperate (like, crying in despair, not pathetic) for something to cling to. then tell her how you feel. that everytime she breaks up with someone, she just uses you, and then once she's over it and leaves you, it hurts. just don't yell at her, because that would be ugly.

Answer 9

She probably comes back to you and talks b/c you two had a stable relationship and she feels that out of her other bfs you are the most reliable. She needs someone to calm her down and she wants you to be able to be there for her.

Answer 10

She keeps coming back because your letting her! She is using you as her security blanket!
As everyone has said, delete her number and dont answer her calls. You shouldn't let yourself be used like this, its not fair!
Tell her to deal with it by herself!
(It will be hard to ignore her,because your too nice, but you need to for you)
You seem really nice, dont waste that on her and get to know someone else who will appreciate you ,and treat you how you desserve to be treated!!!!!!!

Catxxx