i get easy bad tempered when people provoke me...how do i deal with it?

Question

im sick with it..

Answer 1

I would talk to your doctor about this first. Counting to ten doesn't help when you are seeing "red". There could be more to it than you realize.

Answer 2

Well if your bad temperment comes out that easily then you have a problem, and you should go and take an anger managment classes, and see if you can not find a way to cope better with that bad temperment you have. You can also talk with your family doctor, or go and see a therapist. They can help you, it might not take as long to get over as you think, or it may take a while, if you have a lot of things that you have needed to discuss . Anyway you look at it, you need to get some professional help with this problem before it gets you into a lot of trouble. If you really want help with this you will seek the help from a professional.

Answer 3

Cut down on your caffeine- SERIOUSLY and when provoked you can "feel" the anger building inside of you--- seriously take some deep breaths and count to ten- dont laugh it works I take panic attacks- and if you cannot dissipate your anger-- walk away--- go in the ladies room if need be and close your eyes and think of a place that you love and would want to be there--- this will automatically stop the adrenaline rush from your anger and will decrease your heart rate and eventually you will feel yourself again.

Answer 4

That is the situation for anybody. However start counting from 1 to 10 before answering or reacting. This will subside ur anger.

Answer 5

sometimes emotions are not that easy to handle, maybe because of a certain situations. Just take a deep breath and exhale all your insanities. Ignore those people who hurt your feelings, because they're only insecure with you. And finally just pray to God to erase all your temperaments...

Answer 6

Take your time and count to ten slowly ..before you answer back ..or go for the kill ..lol
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this will give you time to think and reflect in a much calmer way ..and not straight off the cuff..

Answer 7

Swami Sukhabodhananda
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One youngster comes to me very depressed and asks this question "Why is God creating so many difficulties for us? How to handle stress?" I tell this youngster to reflect on this beautiful story:

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 8

If you are able to ,leave the situation return when you are calmed down