my 17yr old niece took a prenancy test at my son's house and the results where positive. She in turn said that she hasn't had a period for 3mths. I'm trying to give her a chance to tell my brother and his wife but it's been a month and she hasn't told them yet and people are starting to ask my brother and wife because the boyfriend has been telling it and my niece has said that he's lying so their mad at him when the reality remains that it's true. Should i go ahead and tell it?
2007-01-05 19:08:19 · 11 answers · asked by 2sweet4u 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It really isnt your place to tell. Though she may not be a grown woman, she is at that age where she is grown up enough to speak for herself. She's 17 and pregnant(assuming the test was accurate)...theres no telling what emotions she may be going through right now. If she is denying her pregnancy then there is obviously a reason for her doing so. Your being the one to tell may just add on unneccasary drama that isnt needed right now.
If your concerned that she isnt taking proper care of herself and her baby then you should bring it to her attention that you know she is pregnant and that if she wants that baby to come out strong and healthy that she should start doing what needs to be done. You should offer to go with her to doctor appointments. You should also start trying to install it in her head that she needs to tell her parents on her own while being her support system at the same time. let her know that you are there for her during these hard times. Even try offering to be by her side when she decides she has to tell her parents.
Right now she needs the support and not the added stress of parents who may become understandably upset because their baby is about to have a baby, but also because someone else in the family had to come to them and tell them first about their baby being pregnant.
2007-01-05 19:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by ♣Chronickandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is the babies life in danger? Is your niece eating right, taking pre-natal vitamins, getting enough sleep, etc? At 17 I would probably say not and then my advice would be to secretly tell your brother's wife and ask that she not reveal you were the one who told. In the end, it's the right thing to do for the good of the baby.
2007-01-06 03:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by Airadine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to balance your niece's right to privacy vs. telling her parents. Certainly several people have made good points about telling her parents so that she receives medical treatment. That being said, medical treatment can't be forced on her. If other people are already telling them, I'd say they know and only really need confirmation that it's true.
She's probably scared to death what her parents reaction will be. However, she is really making herself look bad by lying and avoiding telling her parents what's going on.
2007-01-06 03:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she hasn't told your brother of her pregnancy that means she is not getting checked by a doctor. The best thing to do is tell your brother, however you have to understand that that kind of news will get him upset. In the long run though its better because it will ensure the safety of the baby and her and he will get over it.
2007-01-06 03:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the parents need to know what is going on. She has had more than enough time to tell them herself. Now it's time for the adults to get involved. good luck!
2007-01-06 03:15:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let the delema try to soothe out on its own for a week or so
talk to your neice and tell her how important it is to let her parents know.
then if worse come to worse and she hasnt told them in 2 weeks than you should break the news to them
cause the longer you wait to tell them, the longer it will take for them to get over it
its more trouble on a babymamaas shoulders.
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2007-01-06 03:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Savannah the Great. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth will be evident soon, whether you tell or not.......so don't tell. It will betray your nieces confidence in you. She may need to confide in you later when the (poop) hits the fan and decides to do something really stupid.
2007-01-06 03:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by mojonah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though I am going to tell you stay out of it, I would tell my brother,he's my brother.
2007-01-06 03:29:28 · answer #8 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let other people speak for themselves. Good or bad, it's their word.
2007-01-06 03:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is up to her to tell them. and she eventually has to or the secret will break out anyway. but if its putting her in any danger, then maybe you should.
2007-01-06 03:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by blob888 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋