I am 21 when i was younger i was kind of a big mac.. I was in a 4 year relationship where he just ended up leaving me when i got prego to go **** around with another girl. I had my kid slimed down to a kiddy burger. 2 years later we get back together.
Now here is my dilemma.. Im working part time at a store. There are a lot of guys there that i work with. I have already been asked out 3 times within 2 months. I mean i am kind of flirty but i respect that i am in a relationship. They KNOW im in a relationship as well.
Why do i feel like i wanna get revenge on him for ******** me over when i was a heffer and prego with his kid? Why cant i let it go.???
2007-01-05 18:54:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we got back together mostly for our son. I thought i loved him and that i really wanted him back. I dont want to hurt my son as a result of it all. He is a great father and good boyfriend at times. His temper drives me insane... and hes not all that emotional.. I think he would give a **** if i left... But on the other hand my ex called and he answered it. He didnt talk to me for a half hour because of it.. and i havnt talked to my ex since we broke it off like a year and a half ago.
2007-01-05 19:19:24 · update #1
I can see why you would feel like taking some kind of revenge. But that never really works out well, especially if your revenge takes the same form as how you were wronged. I'm saying don't do it BACK TO him.
Instead, you need closure on that part of your life and only he can give you the closure you want. He owes you that much but it seems that he has not even given you that. You don't say where "the kid" is, nor why you two got back together. To have what you had before and not allow it to end in "disaster" (losing him)? It did not undo the hurt for you though. Slimmed down and now he's back? You don't really like this guy and neither do I. He is what you need to let go.
Added: Acting out jealousy is not a compliment to you. Cold emotions, hot temper. How long could you stand that? He can be a great father with shared custody. And maybe a tolerable or even great friend. You will be free when the right guy shows. Meanwhile, grow. You need to LEARN WHY you do not need to, and should not, settle for an unsatisfying relationship.
2007-01-05 19:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! If you value your relationship, stick with it and be faithful. If you don't value it that much, then break it off. But revenge? Come on . . . you're better than that, aren't you? You'll be worse than a heifer if you cheat. You'll be a common whore, a community project if you will. And if you do break it off, don't get with the same kind of guy. Good night!
And good grief! You're only 21? I'm 21 also. And I know about the quality of guys women my age tend to date. They'll turn down perfectly decent guys to get with CHUMPS. I don't know how old this guy is, but if you were only 15 you shouldn't have been dating to begin with, much less having sex. It's discouraging sometimes to see that women my age already have children, and aren't married either.
I don't know what kind of temper he has, but if your ex called, that's just aggravating the situation. Wouldn't you feel bad if that girl he was with while you were pregnant called? Give the guy a break! If you really can't stand to be around him, you should break up. If you do like him, you should cultivate what's good in the relationship, to make it better and more worthwhile. Surely you two have something in common, except having the same child? Good luck!
2007-01-06 03:06:04 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
resentment is like a root... it's a bear to let go. However, i was able to let mine go (which was due to brutal and extensive childhood abuse) through prayer and asking God to heal my heart. It was as if a train had been lifted from me and to this day, i refuse to even pick up a grudge or resentment when the old familiar feeling comes back around. You can do it, too.
2007-01-06 02:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you earned a get-some-*** fo free card....Think about it...he left you to cheat. While you were prego no less....even if you were fat!! So what?? That's fuc**ed up in my opinion. I'm not trying to advocate cheating, but some people should get what they deserve. Do what you feel is right.
2007-01-06 02:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Aozora 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He left you when you were pregnant and you took him back. That I can't believe. What were you thinking? Glad you aren't my daughter. If you were I would have you commented to the loony bin.
2007-01-06 03:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it.... You will regret it the rest of your life!!!!!!!
2007-01-06 02:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋