I am a very shy person and I have always been and I don't like being so shy. I know I am going to always be a shy person, but I am tired of it. I wanna be able to talk to people and have normal conversations. But I am so quiet no one really knows anything about, except my family and my boyfriend. I wanna just say what is on my mind, let my feelings out, and not care about what people are saying and thinking about me. And when I am shy I just feel akward and stupid and I wanna say something but I hold it in and its affecting me every single day. I wish I can just let all of my worries go. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and at first I could just talk to him about almost anything, and I lately I'm letting my shyness take over me. My new years resolution is to speak my mind about things. I have been speaking my mind but not as much as I want to. I need some help!!! Thank You!!!
2007-01-05 18:46:21 · 8 answers · asked by atcblue05 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I've always been shy. But since July 3, 2005. I've kinda learned to speak my mind and don't let anyone get to me. I guess something did good come out from July 3. Haha.
I'm always still going to be that shy girl. But I'm not scared to just tell people to shut the heck up when they are running their mouth. Yeah, I'm still working on going up to people and introduce myself. It sucks when your around guys and your all shy. But I guess my motto is "If your aren't yourself, your lying to yourself. If you are yourself, & people don't like you, they are missing out on a great person."
I became to loosen up when I was with a friend going to the drive-ins and we had to use the restroom so bad, that we left the drive ins because the bathrooms were packed & we ran into her ex boyfriend. So we hung out with him and his friend. I was uncomfortable at first, but when my friend and her ex got me and the other guy alone, I just loosen up. He knew I was shy. I don't know...he just made me feel important when I was with him.
Life isn't out to get you. I guess that's why I was afraid before. I was afraid if I spoke up, something or someone would do something to me. Life is to short to be shy.
Everyone is different.
2007-01-05 19:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like it is something that you really want to do so you should be able to acomplish it. You need to just stick it out and go out of your comfort zone and try to be more outgoing. What I have found the easiest to do is be in a group of people that I dont know at all and be outgoing, i am able to do this because I dont know these people and I tell myself that I will never see them again and that they wont judge me. It seems strange that that is an easy way to over come this but try and it just might work
2007-01-06 02:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convince yourself that you don't have to impress anyone, and just because you have an akward conversation doesn't mean it's the end of the world. I used to be quiet, and I still am to certain people IE teachers, because I respect them. But people my age, I do not usually respect, and I can talk to about anyone because I am confident in myself. I'm not concieted, but I'm definately confident.
Have your boyfriend help you, loves often can push one another to do things they didn't think they could.
2007-01-06 02:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Krista Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go and speak your thoughts. You might seem bitchy at times but at least you are telling the truth about what is on your mind. Now, I am not shy but I do keep my feelings in. I try to tell whatever is on my mind and I do get embarrassed about what comes out sometimes but hey, if that person thinks you are weird because of it, then screw 'em!
2007-01-06 02:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Aqua Moon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's a book! I'm shy too.
Don Gabor -How to start a conversation and make friends
yeah lame title.
2007-01-06 02:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by egf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swami Sukhabodhananda
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Can there be harmony in conflict? By approaching conflict in harmony, you can resolve it. And harmony comes with an attitude of wonderment and open-mindedness. Buddha took a flower and looked at his students silently.
He asked them to respond. Each student interpreted it according to his own philosophy. Mahakashap got up and smiled. Buddha gave the flower to him and said, "You have interpreted it correctly".
In his smile every cell of his being was in a state of wonder. In every moment of our life why can't we see with totality and not in a partial way? Just by looking at things with appreciation, we can avoid conflict altogether.
What is the essence of the Bhagavad Gita? The Gita teaches us the art of being total. Use your actions in an attitude of karma yoga, use your feelings in devotion in bhakti yoga, use your intellect for right understanding in jnana yoga and use your being in silence in dhyana yoga.
When there is conflict we tend to counter it with conflict. War is conflict and Gita presents a harmony that could lead to inner tuning. The Gita's message is: "Create harmony in conflict".
In the art of archery, "losing the arrow" is the most important aspect... Archery is only a preparation for the final "let go" of the arrow. Similarly, in life it is the "let go" of the ego which is most important.
Like in archery the anxiety to hit the shot dilutes and pollutes one's effort to hit the target. In life the anxiety to reach one's goals ravages one's life.
In the context of war the value of spiritual lessons is more, as one experiences tension... In martial art if someone twists your wrist and if you resist it, you may break your wrist.
But if you go with the flow rather than go against the flow, you are in a state of harmony. As you go with the flow then you counter-attack your opponent in the flow. This is creating harmony in conflict.
Most difficulties in dealing with conflict arises out of stress and tension. When you are in great tension, don't fight with it, just flow with it and then see the cause of the tension and handle it.
You see, there is a sharp distinction between worrying and worrying effectively. I feel like a sheep and I want to be strong. Has the Gita got something to say about this? Arjuna wanted to leave the battlefield.
Krishna tells Arjuna to face life and not run away from the conflict. Our conflicts exist because of our unconscious. Our prison habits created by the unconscious is making us live like sheep.
A lion lives alone and has the courage to face the dangers of life. A sheep lives in a crowd and has an illusion that the crowd will protect it. The sheep represents a part of our society and the lion represents our pure inner state.
The Bhagavad Gita helps us to tune to our inner pure state and denounce the illusion of security. Life is insecure, so face it courageously, says the Gita.
Clarity, courage and wisdom are true security. Learn to draw energy from that state and not from illusion. Then you will see the difference.
2007-01-06 02:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-06 05:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i refuse to answer any questions that start with " I NEED ADVICE!!!!!"
dammit, i just did. oh well.
2007-01-06 03:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋