please ppl help me, she is the woman of my dreams and i am going to iraq in feb and it is jan and she still has doubts about my love i have for her and it makes me so mad and frustrated,i know i am not the best guy for her but i am true and faithful to her but she has no idea what she really means to me. She lives with me and also has never cheated on me, we both love eachother very much but she still keeps comming to me with questions about my faithfullness about me to her. She is my woman of my dreams but i cant tell her that in my way to get her to believe me, i am pitiful and need help and if u r a guy and call me a pussy give me ur address and i will meet u and do bad stuff, im not a small guy (lol)
2007-01-05 18:31:45 · 14 answers · asked by = 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all I can say is [actions speak louder than words] you need to show her.
2007-01-05 18:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jadey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a wife whose husband is deployed right now and first of all you MUST let her know how much you love her BEFORE you leave. Deployments are stressful enough as it is. So now to help you- tell her everything you said above. Maybe you could have a romantic evening together and I mean the works. Tell her to get dressed up and either take her to dinner or better yet make her dinner and throughout the evening give her little notes telling her all your feelings. You can even go the extra mile with flowers and a back rub. Whatever it is that your wife loves and has probably told you about in the past but you were too "manly" to do it. (It's ok- my husband can be this way too :) ) Anyways the point is you need to tell her these things over and over and over utnil she gets them. And while you are gone I am sure you will call and e-mail or IM but remember the handwritten letters- they don't even have to be romantic just as long as they are about you- that will let her know you truly love her even when you are gone. Good luck!
2007-01-06 02:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that she feels so insecure about this. I know us women can be difficult to convince but trust me...not telling her you're leaving for Iraq is not good...it's better for her to find out now than when you're actually leaving. Do all you can to make her understand how you feel....show her...don't just say it....and also make her understand exactly why you're going to Iraq and ensure her that you will be thinking of her every second that you're apart. If she still can't accept it then just know you tried and maybe with time she will gain understanding. Best of luck!
2007-01-06 02:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by CuriosityKilledtheCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just feeling a bit insecure right now because you two will soon be far apart for a lengthy period of time. It's natural for her to feel this way even though she knows you love her very much. I would reassure her by spending precious quality time with her until you have to leave. Express your love to her in words and actions. Sometimes women have to hear how special they are and how much they mean to you.
2007-01-06 02:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife sounds like she is being very selfish and is a very insecure woman, and you should not feel such a responsibilty to cure her ailment. She should be concentrating on the fact that you are about to go to Iraq, and how difficult that notion is for you.
If God intended for you two to be together, she will be there for you with open arms when you return.
I wish you the very best and thank you for serving for our country.
2007-01-06 02:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe she is insecure about herself, feels she is not good enough for you. Maybe you could tell her everyday how great she does something and how much you will miss it when your gone. It might be the way she smiles, how thoughtful she is or something she cooks for you. She needs to feel like no other girl in the whole world could take her place you know her well enough to know what things she does well let her know how much you appreciate her. Thank you for your service.
2007-01-06 02:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by puzzled 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, this woman is your wife and you have these problems? What did your vows say? She is insecure it sounds like and you may need counseling together, however I think you are a great man for accepting duty in Iraq or a job there.
2007-01-06 02:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by red d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to be insecure like that with my husbands. poor thing i cant believe i did tha to him. he did everything to show me he loved me and would be so hurt and exhausted when i would ask him every day,"do you love me? do you really love me? have you ever cheated on me? would you ever cheat on me? do you think im pretty? if you didnt think i was pretty would you tell me ? am i just pretty or am i beautiful?" it was a mess. you should tell her that shes gonna have to grow up and mature to the level where she can trust what you tell her, because your going to iraq and u may not make it back and u dont want to leave with her questions haunting you. its a maturity thing i grew out of it but it took time. she knows you love her, but she just needs constant assurance because she immature
2007-01-06 03:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you love her and that you need her to believe you before you go to Iraq. that its important to you before you go that she knows shes you #1 gal and always will be. and of course let her know you are defiantly not going to cheat on her while your gone. and that you need her support right now because things are so bad over there, tell her you will miss her deeply everyday your gone and that you will be counting the days you can be back home with her. but you need to also show her not just tell her. show her everyday that you love her and tell her several times a day that you love her and shes the only one for you. may god bless you while your over there. not a nice place to be right now. tell her also that you will try to write her everyday your gone. i hope you can convince her how much you do love her before you go. :)
2007-01-06 02:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesely, I would do this:
1st explain again how you feel
2nd: ask her how she feels and why
3rd: Ask her what she wants/expects from you. (Can/Do you provide this)
I don't want to be negative, but sometimes when women constantly need this affirmation, there is a reason behind it......Is she insecure? Is she unfaithful? Is she trying to get attention? Does she truely believe this and what makes her suspect?
Trust me, you do not want to deal with this for years to come, so please try to find the root behind this.
2007-01-06 02:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by emm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i ask my fiancee if he loves me all the time, and ask him if he is cheating on me because i need that reassurance of knowing for my own sake, so dont take it that she doesn't love you..just take it as she knows you love her, but she questions just HOW MUCH do you love her, just so she knows she is loved
2007-01-06 02:37:14 · answer #11 · answered by loco_duznt_coveru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋