Im 19 and my ex is 23, we were together for almost 2 yrs when he suddenly ended it. Things were fine leadin up to it, we were talkin bout our future together and makin plans, he cant have been scared off cause he would bring it up. Anyways he dumped me after spending the night at his parents house saying THEY werent happy with us and he suddenly needed to be alone! Now I have found out Im preg to him but he is really strange about it, one min he is caring and asking how im feeling the next he is accusing me of lying and says my sympstoms are just from stres (i did 2 tests, one said i wasnt the next said i was, im goin to the doc next week). I know im preg but he is being a real c#@t about it and its just stressing me out. Has any of you been in this situation or similar and what did u do? What happened? I really dont know what to do, i want to keep it and he doesnt...i dont think i could handle an abortion.
2007-01-05 18:22:26 · 11 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do not talk to him about it anymore until AFTER you go to the doc... find out for sure..... then show him the test results..... there is NOTHING you can do until the baby is born and you have DNA test done, which the state will require, and he will prob. have to pay at least half of the cost, and then the state will take care of the child support process.... so let the guy live his life in a dream world and let the reality hit him in the face when the time comes..... just worry about you and that baby for now and let the rest take care of itself when the time comes..... God bless
2007-01-05 18:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your body , your decision. Asking your partner for an abortion is very insensitive. I understand it is a stressful situation for both of you as neither of you might not be ready for this life to come into the world. You are both young and inexperienced and should have tought of using a condom or any other way of contraception if you weren't ready. First, go to the doctor to make sure. Second, if the outcome is positive, tell him about it. If he reacts negatively and you want your baby, keep it. You are stronger than you think. Also there is help for single teenage mothers. Just inquire about it. A child is a precious gift from God. Do not abort it, as there are many people that may not be in a condition to conceive. A lot of people are willing to adopt in that case. A child can always find a loving home if you cannot take care of it. Most peole that I know who had an unexpected pregnancy ended up loving this human being so much when it is born that they do not want to give it away. You are also legal and can find a job while you are going to school if you plan to. How about your family, can they help you? You can work your life around your child and survive. Do not let him blame you and force you to abort your baby. What happened is both your fault. Be strong. you can do it.
2007-01-05 18:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have an abortion, but should consider placing the baby up for adoption. You are only 19 involved with a 23 year old boy, who is not ready physically or emotionally to be a father.
If you chose to raise the child on your own, it would be a struggle for you. You would grow up despising the child for all the sacrifices you had to make on his or her behalf.
You should finish school, and go on to college, and have a good education behind you. You would then have many options.
I wish you the best when you go to see the doctor. Be smart with your decision that only you can make.
2007-01-05 18:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortions are a piece of cake nowadays... Think about it... They are much easier than dealing with a) pregnancy b) an a**hole daddy c) having to support this child and having this responsibility for the rest of your life. You will have plenty of time to have kids later. Just my 2 cents. (Had an abortion at 18, never regretted it for a second; have gone to school, got a career, got married, and now we're thinking of having kids.) But it is a very personal choice; don't do what HE is pressuring you to do, do what YOU feel is right.
2007-01-05 18:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is YOUR body and y'alls baby, do NOT get an abortion. You will regret it and God has a plan for this child's life. You can make it work, even if you and this guy do not end up together, you are pregnant with his baby. Stay strong and you can do it! God bless you and I'll pray for you! :)
2007-01-05 18:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 03:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happens, know that it's not your fault. If he's being a jerk and continues to be a jerk you may have to raise the child yourself. Good luck.
2007-01-05 18:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby you wont regret it. Invite him to the hospital when you have the baby.
2007-01-05 19:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not uncommon nowadays-make that fellow to stand before the judge legally-or send him to stnd before the judgement of GOD= do u know the meaning?
2007-01-05 18:28:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.Dynamis 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats tough.. mabe put it up for adoption, or keep him or her if u want? did u use protection or wut b/c i would like to know how this happens?! So that it doesnt happen to me.. srry if im makin it worse lol ... im reallly srry for u :( my e-mail is hockeystar_298@hotmail.com i would just like to know how u got pregnant if u wanted to get_____ or if u used birthcontroll... thx alot
2007-01-05 18:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by david edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋