Me and My boyfriend normally watch porn together..But today was different, My boyfriend wanted me to f*** him the way some girl was f***ing some guy..Our sex life is great so I was confused that he even asked that..Anyways, we try it and I fail miserably, he put me down because I couldnt do it the way she did..I still dont know how to react..This hurts and I feel terrible..What should I tell him?
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2007-01-05 18:20:34 · 30 answers · asked by ~Love is Blonde~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks, guy's your answers are great..I'd love more
2007-01-05 18:46:05 · update #1
you have the right to feel bad, but since you're fighting you're probably really emotional about the subject right now, i'm sure tomorrow it will be better
but anyway.. of course that would hurt you, tell him that you don't want to do what she does cause you can do it waaay better your own style;) haha
2007-01-05 18:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by shoe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While there is nothing wrong with watching porn or even trying to 'act out' the little scenarios there, I think it is grossly disrespectful of him to 'put you down' about your performance.
One, it hurts you because for women sex is more emotional experience than for a guy. They would stick it anywhere and be happy as long as they got off.
You need to have a serious talk with him and tell him how much it hurt you that he put you down. If he can't understand where you are coming from, maybe you ought to try this: the next time you are together watching a little porn and you see a guy on there that is hung like a horse, you should say something to the effect of how you wish his you-know-what was as big as that guy's. Then he'd get a clue as to how you felt when he put you down.
I really wish you the best of luck. I know you are hurt and I do feel bad for you. You need to think about whether you want to continue to be in this relationship or not with a guy that would actually degrade you for such an intimate act.
2007-01-05 18:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's a jerk and dump him. If sex is all that's important to him, then he doesn't deserve you.
You shouldn't feel terrible. You were nice enough to try something that he wanted to do, and just because you weren't able to do it just like he wanted, he put you down? That absolutely ridiculous. Dump him and find a real man, who loves and appreciates you. You deserve much better.
If he possibly was just teasing, or didn't know that he was being mean by saying what he did, then you need to let him know that he hurt you by being mean. If he thinks that he didn't do anything wrong, then dump him, like I said. If he honestly didn't know that he was being mean, then make sure you let him know that what he did was mean and wrong and he shouldn't do it ever again, that you were being nice and trying to do what he wanted, and he just was mean to you. If he's really apologetic and truly didn't know that he did anything wrong, and didn't know that he was being mean, that's the only way you should possibly stay with him. Otherwise, dump him!
Good luck!
2007-01-05 18:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to watch porn with my guy. That;s something he can do own his own and in his own privacy. Also, he's living in a bit of a fantasy land if he thinks porn is reality! And definately don't do anything the girls in the porn do if you don't feel comfortable doing so! Also, if your guy put you down for not being able to do what a porn girl did then he's a real jerk. Sex in a relationship is about intimacy and being close to someone you really care about. Tell him that your not going to watch porn with him for a while (or ever again) and make sure he's respectful if he wants to try new things. And don't ever do anything you're not comfortable with doing just to please him - he's not worth it.
2007-01-05 18:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Diana K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is only good when both of you are enjoying it. If he wants someone to perform for him and entertain him, tell him to go find the women in the movies! Do what's comfortable to you. Don't try to be those other women b/c you will always fail. Besides, he's just your boyfriend! Keep all the good stuff for your husband whenever he comes along!
2007-01-05 18:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Aniyah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tiffany !!!
Think seriously on leaving this guy!!! And very seriously the sooner the better. If he is into porn. and trying to get you to measure to them, he will eventually try to find someone to fulfill his fantasies.
No man should be putting a woman DOWN!!! For a porn action movie!!! Last time I checked that is called, "DOMESTIC VIOLENCE"!!! Get out of this relationship, while you are still strong. It seems to me he already have the better part of you; when you say that you are HURT!!!
He has NO right, to force you into doing something against your will, NO MATTER IF HE IS YOUR BOYFRIEND!!!!
He is NO GOOD and will continue hurting you .................
IF YOU LET HIM !!!!! GET OUT, NOW!!!!
GOOD LUCK, you are going to need it!!!!
GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
ALLIV Z
2007-01-05 18:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps not telling him yet. Wait for a few days and see how you feel then.
It's hard to tell him straight and it would make the whole situation bad. If you really love him, tell him in ... perhaps a joking manner or in a gentle way.
I mean, you have to look for a situation to mention it to him or just gentle let him know. but not sound too serioud bec he may get offended and you would, feel bad in the end for yourself.
If you feel that you want to let him know, then you have to do it.
If not, then just don't and in the future, try to aviod the same incident.
If you need a talk, please feel free to email me.
I encountered the same situation two years ago.
All the best!
2007-01-05 18:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by sassy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to try it again. Through out a relationship you're going to come up with your own ideas to try and get them from other places. It excites him, so do it. It doesn't mean you're anywhere near bad in bed. If you show him that you want to please him you two will have an awesome sex life. There's nothing morally wrong with trying something new, no matter where the idea come from.
2007-01-05 18:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your b/f has some issues... How 'bout next time you ask him to swordfight like Captain Jack Sparrow if he wants to get sex? Then make fun of him when he fails miserably. He needs to pull his head out of his a** and re-join the real world.
2007-01-05 18:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, practice makes perfect. Tell him you're interested in trying again. Don't feel bad for getting it wrong the first time, like you said, you're not a porn star. Besides, it's fun to just try and if you don't get it, try something else. Good luck!
2007-01-05 18:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by california girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋