Nothing is going on I have watched him since BIRTH! His father and I NEVER have sex in front of him, we dont even KISS in front of him. YET he often has a HARD on if he kisses me, or hug me. HE is VERYY VERYY DIRTYY! He will take out his PENIS and rub it on us ( family members) He wants to rub MY nipples and when I tell him to kiss me he put his tongue in my MOUTH!! I dont do anything sexual in front of him. I dont even like tongue myself. He is ssssssssssssoooooooooooooooo SEXUAL! HE is ALWAYS HARD and ALWAYS FRISKY!!! WHY????? I am a stay at home MOM, we dont do ANYTHIN in front of HIm why is he like this???
2007-01-05 18:19:52 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The CRAZY THING IS he says MOMMY my willy is getting BIGGER! Thats when he is getting HARD he is 3!!! Believe he DOES GET HARD!! I am not a MOLESTER!! I was molested as a CHILD! I dont touch him, I always explain to him when to tell MOMMY but he doesnt. But besides that! He is only with me!!!!!!
2007-01-05 18:25:16 · update #1
Children are more sexual now than when they grow up. I know that's sound weird, but just think about all of the growing they are doing, and how their brains are forming and thing connecting. Its very natural for a child to be sexual. I caught my 4 yr old son in his room on his be (supposed to be asleep) with a funny look on his face..had his shirt up etc..I asked him why he sd. feels weird and good. I did not make a big deal out of it (if you do they will just do it to get the reaction), but sd yr not supposed to do that OK...that's for when you get to be older and married. He SD OK, but he does have some moments. He also tries to grab other breasts (again that is normal right now), just say no that not right. Same thing with any thing else like that. If you have any other children maybe hes getting "some" of the ideas from them, but perhaps it could be TV. Or his cousins. Just be calm and think it through.. Don't go over board, you ll just make your self a nervous wreck and remember You R a GOOD MOM.
2007-01-05 19:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by cateyes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your son having erections is normal. A baby cannot be VERY vERY DIRTY. Why is he wanting to rub your nipples? How could he possible know this is sexual? He won't know that unless someone told him or he was exposed to sexual acts. How can a 3 yr old be frisky? Isn't frisky horny? Toddlers masturbate, and explore their bodies and sometimes their family members. It is as innocent as you make it. The only way it will be DIRTY is if YOU make it dirty. Teaching him what is inappropriate and appropriate behavior should be done matter of factly, freaking out about it only makes things worse.
2007-01-05 20:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ehukai 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little kids tend to masterbate, because it's natural. Little baby girls and little baby boys will even do it when theyr'e still in a crib! It's strange that your toddler seems so sexually educated (the tongue kissing etc.) so maybe he saw/heard something at preschool or somewhere..
But the erection is natural. I have a six year old who masterbates, and when I ask him what he's doing he is embarassed. When I ask him why he does it, he says because it feels good.
Just do your best to teach him that this type of behavior is bad, because you don't want him going to school doing that to classmates! If you have any concerns, ask your boy's doctor. He or she will be able to give you a complete explanation and tips on how to stop it.
2007-01-05 18:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your baby is not even aware of what he is doing, but I understand your concern. It is natural for toddlers to get erections and everything with a young child is about taste and touch. Babies senses are very acute and he is exploring this new world that is open to him. Discuss your concerns with your pediatrician, my suspicion is that this will all subside.
I just read your added info and I originally thought your child was younger. It does sound like he is being exposed to things of a sexual nature. Does he go to day care? What programs does he watch on t.v., etc.?
2007-01-05 18:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Incognito 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband does not spank but when he puts my son on a time out, or if he gets in trouble with dad, he looks at me, and tries to get my attention. Its a child's way of seeing if the one parent will "rescue" him. I don't intervene with my husband while he is disciplining our son, and vice versa. If we have issues with the disciplinary approach we discuss it without our son hearing it so as not to undermine each other's authority. Because, he's never been "rescued" by either parent while he is being disciplined, he has stopped giving us that "poor me" look.
2016-05-22 22:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for boys to have hard ons and get aroused by touching female body parts etc.. He is also at the age to notice that this is happening. However, to the extreme that you are talking about, I agree with the others who posted, you should have him evaluated just to see if there is anything else going on.
2007-01-05 18:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by acaschato 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um, I'm really concerned for your son. Not because of anything having to do with HIM, but more having to do with your reactions to him. Why are you interpreting a TWO year old baby's behavior as "sexual"? If you know for a fact that he hasn't been abused, then you should also know that he is not being "sexual" in an adult way with you because there is NO WAY that he could be being so unless he had been exposed to ADULT sexuality.
Yes, children get erections. Fetuses get erections in the womb. Fetuses in the womb MASTERBATE. Infants and toddlers MASTERBATE. If he rubs his penis on you it's because you let him. He does it because it feels good. Just because he's TWO doesn't mean he doesn't have feeling. If he puts his tongue in your mouth, it's either because he has been exposed to such behavior, or because he is just trying out new things. My toddler tries to lick my face sometimes. Why? I have no clue! I don't lick his, but he has his own mind. You have to set clear limits with your child, gently and respectfully. Saying, "ew, gross, you're nasty" is immature and stupid and only encourages him to keep doing what he is doing.
He wants to "rub your nipples". Does he like to hold your hand? Does he touch your nose, your legs?? Why the heck would he know at age TWO that your NIPPLES have a sexual connotation? To him, your nipples are NOT sexual. My toddler still nurses, as do many toddlers.
The real concern in your household is why you, as seemingly normal and mature parent, are sexualizing your toddler. Why are you so offended and shocked by his behavior, and why are your interpreting it as "sexual"? Were you sexually abused as a child? Was anyone in your family? What your toddler is doing is normal, and he will do whatever you allow him to do.He can't help having erections, and all toddler boys and infant boys have them.
He is not "turned on" by you, he probably just has to pee. Your husband should know that having to pee causes erections in men. In addition, erections are caused by many other things, "sexual arousal" ,in the adult sense, is NOT one of them in toddlers. What you CAN prevent is your child "giving you tongue" as you so disgustingly put it. Just show him what is OK with you as far as kissing is concerned. Let him know, "mommy kisses you like this." Don't make a big deal out of your toddler's actions. They are as innocent as you allow them to be. Show him, rather than tell him, how you want him to behave and let him retain his innocence. Jeez, he's just a baby!
These things only count if you are as sure as you can be that he is not being molested or exposed to sexual material(dirty music videos count) by relatives or close friends of yours(the most likely molesters). You said you were sure, so if that is the case, I really think the issue is more with you than him. Most people are a little shocked at their toddler's sexual development, but you seemed to have really been thrown by it.
You seem like you mean well, and you obviously care a lot about your baby.
2007-01-05 18:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by chicalinda 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Mom, take a deep breath and relax.
Your son is NORMAL...
He is only doing what feels good to him.
Little boys are FASCINATED with that little thing after they discover it..
They take it out...they show it off!
You just have to gently tell him that what he's doing isn't so nice.
He'll out grow it....
2007-01-05 19:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by iwish40 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for boys to get wood, but to act in the manner in which you are describing is not exactly normal. I would take him to see the pediatrician and hopefully and psych eval.
2007-01-05 19:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Suga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the doctor and have him checked,has he been around anyone who could have messed with him,how old is he,I would just take him to the doctor at least to ease your mind!I had a daughter who was molested and it ended up killing her,she died of liver failure at age 31 from drugs,Please it better to be safe then sorry.my daughter was sexual when she was small and I didn`t get her checked,if I had things may have been different,I`ll never know now.
2007-01-05 18:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkin 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋