What can i do to have a good time. I don't want to be that girl again that stays home...having another one of those bleak period. How can i convince myself he's not worth crying for?
2007-01-05 18:12:12 · 12 answers · asked by Ramona S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations on this new beginning in your life. Remember, the new is always greater than the old - however wonderful this last guy may have seemed, the new one will be even better. Each relationship that fails, helps us refine our search for the ideal mate.
It is natural to greive at the end of a serious relationship - if only for the loss of the dream - but be sure to pamper yourself and be kind to yourself. Trust the process of life and the transition will go easier.
Some things you can do to get out of the house? Take a walk - go out to lunch by yourself with a good book - go to the bookstore and have some coffee and socialize. Stop and have a drink at happy hour on your way home from work, take a class, look up local things to do in the paper. Many of us live near great attractions and never visit them - why not arrange time to go with a friend or co-worker to the museum or something.
Other things you can do to get over him - eat all the food that he hated and you miss, shower in the middle of the night and eat ice cream in bed - indulge yourself and revel in the time you get to do anything you want. Wear the clothes he hated or the perfume he didn't like - enjoy being free on some level at least.
Enjoy being single - before long you won't be again, and before you know it you are married and have kids and think back very fondly on the days when you could just be you. Take good care my dear!
Peace!
2007-01-05 18:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somewhere to volunteer. It has worked for me both times I had a major painful breakup, one a boyfriend, one a divorce.
I really like kids so I volunteered at schools. If you like animals, you could volunteer at an animal shelter. Or whatever your passion is, there is probably a place to volunteer...
rape crisis center
crisis hotline
homeless shelter
soup kitchen
road clean up crews
etc.
but really it only works really well if it gets you out of the house interacting with other people... the people you are helping or other volunteers.
Try not to get into a romantic relationship right away, or have a fling. Really that just makes it worse.
2007-01-06 02:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by shrubs_like_pretzles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u r over him, u will realize he, or any one guy is not worth crying for.. really..
forget about him and have some fun. invite friends to a party, watch movies together, dine, dance and go on vacation. do it with a friend or friends.. will make u forget him easily.
2007-01-06 02:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go out with some friends. If there are some clubs near by and you are old enough... have a little dance party.
2007-01-06 02:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Stevie K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all..... r u really sure u wana brk up? if no then talk to him n get back... but if ur convinced dat u wana brk up thn.... da best thing to do is think bout da bad times! remember the way he treated u n u dint like it! go boy hunting! lol.... catch up wid old frnz u havnt spoken to since long.... ( a pretty neat way i wud say.... ) n il tell u more wen i think of more! :D i hav broken up wid my grl but got bak wid her... this has been goin for like 3 years..... finally settling down a bit.... bt again... problems come! tryin to settle this one too... i jst cry like a grl wen i hav a brk up! :(
2007-01-06 02:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by me n her 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just it, cry, get him out of your system,dress up,get your friends,have a blast and move on..It only hurts for a little while.You will find someone so much better
2007-01-06 02:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im going thru the same thing.. i just go out with my friends every night and i barely think about him. staying home being upet is the worst thing u could do! good luck hang in there....
2007-01-06 02:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by jerseygirl<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i said the same thing...but when my bf n i broke up..it was becuz he wanted to live his life...i cryed for a month just very heartbroken but then i slowly recovered..u really shud go out n enjoy wat u got...but u shud really let it out n cry couz it will build up n it wont be a pretty site.
2007-01-06 02:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blink like an owl until u catch another rat
2007-01-06 02:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dr.Dynamis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of sex helps a-lot. But be safe.
2007-01-06 02:22:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋