im a tomgirl - often mistaken for a boy. short hair- boy shorts and sports sandals summer through winter, bike everywhere, bikelock constantly around my neck. i free climb rocks and trees and like extreme dangerous sports. i also like "boyish" subjects like math and science and computer science and all that crap.
im athletic, and if i dress like a girl, not unattractive. but im modest in dress at least. ive never even worn a tanktop in public. and also, my politics and values tell me that showing of physical parts of my body with dress is extremely sexist and encouraging guys to date for the goods.
it seems like the only cool guys i've met are hormoneless too. or, if not completely hormoneless, more interested in other stuff, namely academics.
so what do i do to get their attention? i am unwilling to contradict my own politics.
2007-01-05 18:12:00 · 5 answers · asked by tomgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be yourself and enjoy life like it sounds like you are. Someone will come along and appreciate you for who you are. You don't have to contradict yourself. That's what makes you who you are. But good luck finding the hormoneless guy. They all are, no matter how hidden it is.
2007-01-05 18:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by elanor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The majority of guys in their early age must feel like they are in control, and therefore must find someone who they can feel slightly greater then. Though this is really a subliminal reason. Most guys don't even realize this is what they are doing. The main reason is instinct tells them that a well groomed or attractive girl is the most fertile and will produce the best young. They aren't thinking about the future appearance of a mate, because instinct is about the present. After all there is no guarantee you'll survive the day. Someone looking for a more permanent relationship will be looking for looks and roughly the same level of intellect.
2016-05-22 22:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha, i know many of the type. i say just give it time. guys are always maturing years after girls (albeit, a tomgirl) and i'm pretty sure it's the same here. just keep your friendships close and before you know it, one of your nerd friends will develop a liking for you. btw, i say "nerd" in the kindest of regard because i am in the same boat, yet vastly less athletic :D
jessica.
2007-01-05 18:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with them and be their friend first.
Why don't you ask a guy to a movie, or to an extreme sport show?
2007-01-05 18:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you've got it under control. I'd say you should just tell them if you like them.
2007-01-05 18:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jack B. Nimble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋