okay i know some mothers just cant deal with their babys but i dont know i dont think i could ever deal with giving my baby for adoption...how do some mothers give them up like that why cant they fight for their babies?
2007-01-05 18:00:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ps:im not pregnant im just wondering :-)
2007-01-05 18:09:00 · update #1
no im not putting these mothers down im saying i dont think i can deal with this.
2007-01-05 18:25:25 · update #2
when the hell did i say abortion was ok????
2007-01-06 05:41:34 · update #3
Im giving my baby up for adoption. There are plenty of agencies out there that will help you find good parents that are for open adoption. Its not like you never see your child again. You just have to put your child's needs in front of your wants. Its not fair to be selfish, im thinking about what my baby needs to recieve his full potential in life and that means a mother and a father who are emotionally, finacially, and spiritually prepared to be parents. adoption is a beautiful blessing. I know i'm giving my son the life he deserves by giving him to two amazing people who are going to take care of him and love him and raise him better than i even thought about doing by myself.
2007-01-05 18:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kayla I 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adoption may not be for you. But it's not like that for everyone. Just becuase you give your baby up for adoption does not make you a bad person. Babies are very expensive and take 24/7 attention. They cost hundreds a month and with a full time job, as well as graduating from high school, keeping there baby is just not an option for alot. They know that the baby would get all the attention and essintials that they need from a family who is not 16 and pregnant.
I praise those who give there babies up. It takes a very strong person to realize that they may not be able to take care and provide all the child needs. That they want them to have everything in the world they can not give.
There is no fighting for the baby needed. It is the mothers choice to give her baby up. Once they sign over there rights they can not get the baby back if that is what you are saying becuase well there rights where terminated.
If the father however wants to keep the baby and raise it on his own. He can refuse to sign over the rights and he will be awarded full custody of the child.
You really should not look down on those who chose adoption. It is an amazing thing and takes a very strong person or couple to put there child up for adoption. It also give families, who may not ever be able to have children, the chance to mother or father a child who needs a home.
A child is not somthing you "deal" with. A baby takes lots of love and affection. I rather have a child be in a loving home with a parent or parents who love them unconditionally instead of a mother who has to just put up with the child. Then ends up abusing or neglecting the child.
2007-01-05 18:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not just teen mothers that put their baby up for adoption. My very good friend was 25 when she put her baby up for adoption. Adoption is an act of love; the mother wants her baby to have things that she cannot give. A mature woman knows what raising a child entails, and women who give their baby up are simply trying to offer the child a better future.
2007-01-05 20:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just arent capable of caring for a child whether it be financially or that they simply cant handle it. If you can't take care of your baby then its better to put them up for adoption where they can be in a loving enviroment and they will have much more opporunities than if they had stayed with the natural mother. Im not saying that teens aren't capable of caring for a baby because my mother was only sixteen when she had me and i personally think she did a wonderful job raising me. Its just that not everyone is in a good enough situation to be able to properly care for a child.
2007-01-05 18:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by nobody 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some women place their babies for adoption because they have decided, after careful consideration, that it's the best thing for (1) the future of the baby, and (2) their own future. It's a huge decision. It takes maturity to make the decision either way. Sometimes "fighting for" a child's future means placing the child with an adoptive family. Sometimes "fighting for" her own future means placing the child with an adoptive family.
And please remember that adoptions aren't the secret, silent situations they were in the old days. Many birth families and adoptive families are in touch, have relationships, and do not forget each other.
2007-01-05 18:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by z 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how young a person is when they get pregnant either they could not provide for their child because they were too young for a job or they didn't believe in abortion. I'm 21 and a single mom of 2, money wise, it is unbelievable hard; I have 3 jobs just to pay the bills so I can understand when someone gives their child up for adoption. Besides, there are millions of people in this world that are deserving a child but cannot conceive so why not give them a chance?
2007-01-05 18:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by jule9104 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My friend in highschool put her baby up for adoption and it was the smartest, least selfish thing I'd ever seen her do. The biggest reason was she knew she couldn't provide for it the way she wanted to be able to, and wanted it to be raised with more opportunities than she could give it. It didnt' help that she was pregnant from a bad relationship, a fact which had a role to play in her decision also. She wasn't eager to raise the child of the dill-hole who pulled her down the stairs in her own house by the neck of her shirt.
2007-01-05 22:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud the women and girls who give up their babies for adoption rather then keep them in terrible conditions.
Most teenagers can't care for a baby, and don't want to make the babies life bad because of it so they give up the child so he or she has a better chance at a good life.
I would personally be too selfish to do it. I dont think I could be strong enough for that. But many are.
2007-01-05 20:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of love to be able to give up a child for adoption. It is the best thing for a mom to do if she cannot afford to care for her child. You read about so many abuse cases or parents who severely neglect their babies...women give up babies for adoption because they don't want this to happen. They want someone who can provide a good life to take care of the baby.
Like abortion, no one can force a woman to give up her baby. It's a decision the mother makes for the good of her baby.
2007-01-05 19:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by shaldyr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Most teen mother's cannot afford to raise a child. If they have to work, the child has to go to child care and that's a big chunk of change. Many do not have free daycare available (family members) so it's pretty much impossible.
Without family support or state support (relying on others)..it just can't be done.
2007-01-06 01:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋