Is it worth it?

Question

Girlfriends are they worth it? Ya sounds like a stupid question but I need to know. I'm a sensitive person and I DO NOT want a girlfriend for sex. I've been having these "anxiety attacks" whenever I'm not around this girl, I'm not sure if its worth asking her out and getting into a relationship. I'm very shy and at the moment very tired from sleeplessness... I just can't seem to break the thought, I tried music, video games, watching some boring TV shows to try to fall asleep and its not working... Please I would like some advice on what I should do about this...

Answer 1

GF ------ a girl is somebody - who can make your life but if she is not a good one she might end up screwing it up too. and its very very and very hard to find one who wont screw it up.
if you are shy/insecure kind then my advice to you. i know how you are feeling - try these :-
1.) hardcore work out (this will make you want to rest and thus sleep)
2.) try thinking about your future, carrier (do you want to spend your life earning the same amount of money you are earning now?)
3.) if you are stuck thinking about girls - you are stagnant in your life and just watching it pass by - may this girl is for you only but if not do you think the other girl whom you would like - would want somebody who is standing still in life?
MY CONCLUSION :------------------ if you want a gf as soon as possible and cant wait for the right time and the right girl then ---- they are not worth it.
but if you can wait and want to carry on with your life first to make it better for your girl then ----its worth it.

Answer 2

I have similar problems. Well, I just occasionally get some paid sex so that I am not running a dry spell.

Dating game does not work for some people and you have to recognize that. It is because of our personalities. We are not the "dating" type. Do not get too stressed about it. Just roll along and live guilt free. There is nothing wrong paying for sex. It is same as buying other forms of entertainment.

Answer 3

As for the sleeplessness, try running, or going for a walk, usually that helps me organize my thoughts, maybe even pacing, though if you don't live alone, that can wake up and annoy the hell out of people. Anyway, yeah, it does suck for shy people, but honestly, think about the risk vs. reward, if you ask her out, she says yes, there's a good chance you'll enjoy yourself eventually, and it'll make you happy, is that worth the possibility of a couple of minutes (maybe hours if you feel really self conscious) of embarassment?... Of course, there's no guarenteeing you'll be completely unembarassed on any dates, but nervousness is half the fun.

Oh, and if you still can't sleep after you've thought on that and/or went for a run, try masterbation, yeah, it's taboo to mention, but there's a good chance it'll clear your mind a bit/make you tired, if not THAT, I recommend you look up self hypnosis, as when I really need to force myself to sleep, self hypnosis always works, it just can take a while. (basicly you just try to slowly put individual parts of your body to sleep until you're relaxxed enough and not thinking about anything, which makes it easier).

If you need any more help, feel free to email me (SN = yahoo email, which I might rarely check).

Answer 4

Based on what ive read about you, me and you are the same. Depends on how old you are, i mean if you looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with then yes definatley, but if your in high school and your just going out with a girl just to out or whatever then no, its not worth it.

Answer 5

You won't know if they're worth it to you until you try it... Sure, relationships come with big risks, there's no argument there. But the rewards are great, too. I think, sooner or later you will realise that having a relationship is "worth" the risks.

Answer 6

I think you should ask her out. Obviously, it's killing you...........You don't have to jump into a relationship right away. Just go on a date or two and if she seems to be the girl for you, then decide at that time.

Answer 7

if you get a g/f , you should consider the sex, as she will probably expect it, girls like sex and if you plan to practice abstinence, she should be aware. it really depends on the girl. if you get along very well, it can be great, if you tend to have friction, it can be a life of living hell. be careful, choose wisely grasshopper.

Answer 8

Try this, get some sleep and then see if you still want an answer when you're rested.

Answer 9

you never know if it worth it or not you just have to put your self out there and give it a try.

Answer 10

Ask her out?