i've been with my bf for 3 years. we used to hang out a lot. but after he got this job, we started to hang out less. and now he just turned 21, he began to hang out more with his 21 and above friends. so i ended up asking him out most of the time. he generally agrees to it, but now he started to say that he hates to plan things ahead, so i don't know what to do. if i ask him out, he doesn't like the idea that i am PLANNING his precious weekend for him. but then if i don't do that, we probably won't be able to hang out at all... he does call me a lot and tell me to go over his house. but i feel that he was just trying to fill in the gaps with me while still have his nights out with his boys... what should i do?
2007-01-05 17:51:59 · 9 answers · asked by Deesa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All you can do is be patient, but first let him know how that makes you feel........If he truly cares, he'll do something about it. He's just going through a phase of turning 21 and entering into a different arena. Let him have his fun, as long as he's true to you. It's not cool what he's doing, but that's how some guys are........they get caught up in that moment. His excuse to you is that he doesn't like to "plan things". Hang out with your own friends, pick up some new hobbies or focus on your interests when you're not with him. He'll be glad to see that you can have a life without him too.
2007-01-05 17:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a classic case of the "He's just not that into you" syndrome. While it's hard to apply the theory to guys at that age, he really should be doing at least some of the asking. If I were you, I would try to stop asking him out for a while, give him some space, and see if he makes the initiative to hang out with you. If not, it's time to start looking for someone new that will give you the attention you deserve.
2007-01-05 17:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by intothelight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go hang out with your friends. Show him you have a life outside of your relationship with him. Get him to call you to go out instead of just coming over to his house. Tell him you aren't coming over unless it is to go somewhere with him or maybe just meet him somewhere. Let him do more of the planning. And if he's not going to plan anything for you both to do then you are doing stuff without him. If he's complaining about you planning some much. Tell him you aren't planning anymore and that he's going to do it now.
2007-01-05 18:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 05:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like he is shuting you out, you could ask the next time he goes out with his friend if you could go to get to know them and pluse you with him as well not all the time becuse he does like you said have his night out with the boys. pick a day of the week and tell him that your two's night to yourselfs with none of your friends with you. and you do that every week just the 2 of you.
2007-01-05 17:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, you know I think he is becoming boring for you therefore you should leave him. If nothing improves and you are not happy then you should move on. Talk to him about how you feel first, if nothing improves then yes move on. I wish you the best.
2007-01-05 17:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just turned 21 he can go to bars. There is lots of tang there.
your time may be limited.
2007-01-05 17:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. its not okay because you must learn to cope with your inner ora. and call a real estate company, and exterminator.
2007-01-05 17:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by shanya PP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking right - time to dump him
2007-01-05 17:56:06 · answer #9 · answered by happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋