How do/did you get spanked?

Question

I am 13 and get spanked by my parents. For minor stuff its usually over my pants but for really bad stuff its pants down or naked. I am usually spanked standing up unless I struggle and then its in whatever position my mom or dad can get to my butt. They always spank with their hand.

I usually get spanked for direct defiance, sassing my parents or being rude. Sometimes I get spanked for not taking a bath or having dirty underwear which is really embarassing. After those spankins, I always have to take a bath too. I am usually sent to bed after my spankin no matter what time it is and I always cry myself to sleep.

I always cry during and after a spankin and my butt is usually sore for a while. My dads spankins are the worst. He can make my butt glow red like a firetruck and burn like a fire.

I just want to say that I don't get abused. I love my parents and they have never spanked me unless I deserved it and I don't want to get grounded. Spankins are done quick. Getting sent to bed for the day is bad enough.

Dad doesn't leave marks, he just makes my butt hot and red for a while. The heat, redness and soreness go away within a couple of hours. I'm not scared of my parents, I just don't like spankins when I am getting them.

Answer 1

I remember when I was about 9 years old,(Im now 47) me and my mate broke into an old abandoned garden shed, and found all these old glass bottles and smashed em on the concrete floor, when my mom found out, she spanked me good with a branch of a tree, I never did anything like that again.

Answer 2

First of all. I think spanking is a good thing for disciplining for younger children. There is a right way to spank and a wrong way. The wrong way is to spank with anger. Never spank a child when being angry or using full force. Never use the hand for spanking, otherwise a child will jerk when ever their parent's hand is being raised. The right way to spank is by using something like a light wooden paddle. First a parent should let the child know what he has done wrong, if it was something bad that is, and let them know why he/she is being spanked. Give a few swats, without leaving marks, then give the child a hug. The child will never do it again because of the pain being felt. That is the way to discipline. Why do you think that kids are out of control these days??

For example, if you put your hand over fire and you know that you will get burned, but did it anyway.....there is consequences, you will get burned and it will hurt!

For you with minor stuff, you should never be spanked. If you don't want to be spanked, then obey your parents and stop being disobedient! Anotherwards, if you love your parents, obey them.

But, if your dad is spanking you out of anger and is out of control and starts leaving marks on you. It means, he is an angry man and doesn't know how to discipline you the correct way. (You may be a little too old to be spanked, probably grounding would be best).

Next time they do that with anger by using full force, and you are afraid of them, call 911. Otherwise, do what your parents want and don't be rude ever again, learn to respect them, because they are your parents. (smile) Hope this helps!

For you being 13 years old, they may want to consider in grounding you instead of spanking. Or maybe take away your video games, no computer, etc....until you straighten up!

Answer 3

When I was a kid, I was spanked a few times. Only when I was really little, I don't remember my parents ever leaving a mark. I was NEVER spanked with my pants down. I personally don't have a major problem with parents who give their kids a single smack on the butt. However, several strikes seems too much and possibly abuse. The spanking with the pants down, especially at your age is most certainly a problem. It is humiliating. I would personally consider that to be abuse.

Answer 4

Can you just be what they want you to be, it sounds like abuse but your to old for spanking, I have spanked my nephew 3 times this past year but only because he endangered his life one time the next he endangered many lives and the next he slapped a girl on the bus, each spanking was with a belt and only one lick on the butt with clothes on, he is 10.

People think Social Services can help you but my nephew was raped several times in their care.and they lost him once, it took me a year to get him. And they did not even apologize to me or my sister who they took him from. My sister did not hit her kids or let them get raped she just did drugs now she has 2 raped kids.

I was spanked as a child and I turned out OK. When you start to smart off think about your dads spanking and that may help you say what you want to say in a different manor. One of my grandsons get so involved in the TV or video game that he will just use the bathroom on the floor, and his parents laugh, he 13 but he is old enough to take a bath and sit his tail on the toilet when he has to go ,he should be spanked also.

Answer 5

Excuse me, When you get that old spanking should not even be am option. But with my parents spanked me which ever way would hurt the most up until I moved out of the house @ the age 16. But my Mom stopped spanking me after every time she would spank me I would laugh at her. I remember one time when I farted and laughed and she spanked harder then ever before!! But my Dad would bare our bottoms and spank.
I feel that when a child becomes 12 the spanking should not be an option. You start going through puberty and start changing and I feel it is wrong to even bare a butt to spank. I think parents take authority and abuse it. I have a hard time spanking my child because of my parents. There are other ways to discipline a child other than spanking.

Answer 6

with the hand on my butt , i got spanked up until i was 9yearsold thats when they started taking things away from me that i liked .but 13 is to old for spankings

Answer 7

social services can take you away for that. That is abuse... You should not have marks on your bum.. and being spanked naked is humilation...and being held down if you don't co operate for a spanking is also abuse... also spankings at this age.. is beyond normal

I got spanked till 16.. and with the emotional abuse.. I would have got taken away for sure if anyone had reported my parents

Answer 8

Red is a mark. It's abuse. If your mother says, "wait til your father gets home", that's emotional abuse. But then, their rules don't seem too bad, why do you insist on breaking them?
I think they need parenting classes, not taking you out of the home.