My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years now and we both still love each other. We're best friends and we shared so much together. But recently we had a long and emotional talk and eventually decided to break up. I miss him so much and I know he misses me too. But the thing is, we aren't growing together which gets us frustrated at each other. He is working full-time and trying to get back into college whereas I am about to graduate and may have to possible move out of the city for a job. We both are financially limited. Is there a possible future for us together? Did we make the wrong decision?
2007-01-05 17:27:27 · 10 answers · asked by kr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If u guys truly love eachother u can make a future together,love can beat all obstackles it depends on the couples
2007-01-05 17:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Cassý 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not necessarily. Live and learn. If it was a mutual decision then you can both suffer the pain, but remember the pain because when people are together that long and making love, they are married already in a very important way.
If it was not painful, there would be some serious problems in your awareness of being bonded with someone. So what you are experiences is adult and real. I would stay in touch, just in case you find out that it really was a marriage, without license.
Let him know how you feel, the pain that is.
2007-01-05 17:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I see here is too impatient people. Just because right now it is difficult does not mean that it would be in the future. You both seem really smart and seem like you are headed in the right direction. There is a future for you as an individual, and I think there is a future for you both as a couple. But right now...life...maybe once you achieve your goals things will get better.
2007-01-05 17:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are taking a mature look at things, realizing that there is probably no future for the relationship. You should take the time when you are separated to date around so that you learn a little more about yourself and other men. Then you will be able to figure out what to do with your life at that point. Best Wishes.
2007-01-05 17:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking long-term is never the wrong decision. It's simply a different one. Staying with him will provide you love, but it will be economically challenging and may continue to provide conflict between you two. Then again, going on with your life will be more benneifical to your long term growth, and it will always present itself with new opportunties to meet other people. It's very good to think long-term in my opinion though, it's very healthy to find a relationship that you can grow with.
2007-01-05 17:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Zen.Frank. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that. Almost everybody has a love that got away. You might regret it or it could be the best thing. Only time will tell. I would stay in close contact love has no boundries!
2007-01-05 17:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by shawclint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong decision! If you love each other, then you both can find a way together!
2007-01-05 17:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by curtf1964 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I realy like this guy in bloem i stay in pretoria he said it isn't gonna work out between us he doesn't sms me like he used to but i still like him and wont give up till i got him for myself.so don't give up if you realy like him just pray for the best and ask to work things out and start over again okay maby you are meant to be together?
2007-01-05 17:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out there and date some more. You'll really know whether or not you've made a mistake by then.
2007-01-05 17:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for each other. Where there is a will, there is a way.
2007-01-05 17:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋