HOW CAN i GET MY 13 MONTH OlD TO SlEEP THROUGH THE NiGHT?

Question

i cant seem to get my 13 month old to fall asleep own his own or get him to sleep through the night~! I cant get him to go to bed until 3 in the morning and then he dont sleep through the night. I've tried the whole putting him to bed at 9 and then he just takes a nap and wakes at midnight and dont go back to bed until 4 in the morning. He also cant put himself to sleep own his own. I've tried putting him in his bed and checking on him as he cries but he just cries and cries. he doesnt ever go to sleep. Any suggestions???

Answer 1

try playing a CD in his room quietly that he can sing along to by him self in his bed, also some mobiles that play ocean sounds and have soft light can help as well, and if he wakes go in and say ok it mama time to sleep as well and put him back down turn the light off and walk out, you may need to do this several time for a few day till he learns that you aren't going to let him get up, just keep putting him down when he gets up even if he has only just gone to bed a t 8,30pm, I have 3 kids an this is how we got all 3 of them to stay in bed ans sleep the night, one even had a sippy at bed time, i know this is not recommended by some but it worked for us
good luck

Answer 2

Wake him up from his daily nap after an hour or so. He's probably getting his sleep during the day and doesn't need any more at night. Unless you're sleeping at the same time as him this won't work for you.

Start earlier, come up with a routine, maybe brush teeth, take a bath, put on pajamas, brush hair, read a book, sing or put on some music for him and leave him to fall asleep. When he cries or wakes up at night, don't turn on any lights, keep it feeling like night. If you go into his room keep things low key try the same things that made him fall asleep at bedtime. Come up with a middle of the night routine, sing a song, rub his back (with the condition that you'll only do it if he's quite). It helped me to tell my daughter where I would be (even that young) so she knew I hadn't left the planet.

Try the family bed, just bring him in your room (your husband will hate this) and see if he sleeps better there next to you. Or try sleeping in his bed with him (you'll want at least a full size bed for this). Once you get him used to sleeping thru the night ween yourself out of the picture. Let him go to sleep and then move back to your bed. (Tell your husband that you can't live another day without sleep, maybe he'll understand).

Answer 3

I was wondering how much sleep your child gets during the day. He needs to sleep less during the day, especially avoiding a late afternoon or early evening nap, so that he is tired and ready to sleep at night. 9 PM may be too early for bed. Try 10 PM. Sometimes, a warm bath and the reading of a book or two helps to settle body and mind. He's sleeping in a crib, correct? Then, hopefully, he can't climb out of it, yet. Therefore, put him to bed with all lights out. Reassure him that you are nearby but going to bed, too. As long as he is not wet, has some food in his tummy, and should be sufficiently tired--you have done all that you can. So....let him cry. Don't peek into the room whereby he can see or hear you. He may have to cry himself to sleep. This should only take a few nights, hopefully. I had this same problem with my daughter so I know the frustration from personal experience.

Answer 4

First your going to want to develop a routine to help him know that its going to be bed time and that your going to sleep to and that life isn't interesting when everyone is asleep. Give him a bath at 8pm. Feed him a light snack. Put him in bed. Read him a story or two or sing to him. Get him a light nightlight, like the ones on plugins that automaticly turn on when you turn off the lights. Put it on the other side of the room, not close to his head. Make sure he has something to sleep with thats a bed time toy or blanket. Then just leave him alone. If he doesn't go to sleep, let him cry. Don't check on him because then it will make it seem like your up and awake. Keep the activity outside his room quiet, or go to sleep yourself. You can't expect him to go to sleep if your having a grand ol time out in the living room without him.

Answer 5

Dear Mum,being a mum of two young children myself I can relate to how despairing lack of sleep can be. From my experience the only thing that is going to stop your child for waking up through the night is to take the bottle away for good. You'll have to be strong cause I now how hard it is to listen to your child crying, specially if you're tired and just want to go back to bed. Make sure that your child has a bed time snack so that you re sure that she's not crying cause she's hungry, but just cause she's used to getting the bottle. I must tell you that it's going to get worst before it gets better because she's going to cry harder and more when you don't give her the bottle. It might take up to a week for her to accept her new routine, but trust me that it will be worth it. You don't have to just let her cry herself into despair. make sure to go into her room, cuddle her, sing, rock her, but don't give her the bottle. She want stay awake forever, she'll eventually tire herself from crying. Good luck and be strong. P.S. Just read mystic's answer and want to add that it is ok for a 13 month old to go for 10 hours without eating or drinking. A lot of younger children are sleeping up to 12 hours every night, with no feeding of any kind in between and there are no medical problems deriving from that fact. But I'm sure that you would be quite happy if you could just get 7/8 hours of sleep with no interruptions, so don't be to ambitious in your expectations for now...baby steps!

Answer 6

Your son has not learned how to soothe himself and put himself back to sleep. You need to establish a routine, put him to bed at the same time each night, make sure he is dry and comfortable, read him a short story and then leave the room. If he cries, go into the room see that he is OK, BUT DON"T PICK HIM UP. Tell him it's bedtime and he needs to go to sleep and then leave the room again. Let him cry if he starts. Wait about 15 minutes, if he is still fussing and crying, go back into the room and lay him down, rub his back and talk to him in soothing tones and tell him it's bedtime. Then leave the room again. You may have to keep this up until he falls asleep. Guaranteed you will have a sleepless few nights until he learns to put himself back to sleep. When he falls sleep and wakes later in the night, go and check on him after a few minutes to make sure he is OK. Make sure he is dry and comfortable, lay him down and leave the room. You may have to go through the above routine of letting him cry it out until he falls back to sleep. The most important thing is DO NOT PICK HIM UP WHEN YOU GO INTO THE ROOM, even if he is holding up his arms and wanting you to pick him up. It's really, really hard, I know, I went through it. Just lay him back down, rub his back for a minute or two and talk in soothing tones and then leave the room and let him cry. He will eventually realize that you are not going to come into the room and pick him up and play with him or comfort him and will fall back asleep on his own. Don't stay in the room too long and let him cry, it's not hurting him, it's hurting you a lot more. ;-) I've let my daughter cry for as much as an hour, checking on her every few minutes to make sure that she is okay and immediately leaving the room. It will not be a pleasant experience, but it will work. Good Luck Mom.

Answer 7

At 13 months, I think babies should be sleeping 15 hours a day, so 3 in the afternoon and 12 over night. I would try making sure your child is wearning nighttime diapers, so they will not wake up because they are wet. Then make sure they eat a full bottle or meal before bed, they'll sleep better full. Good luck!!

Answer 8

You need to put him on a strict bedtime schedule and perhaps put him down a little later (10 p.m.). He may be waking up due to being hungry (does he eat dinner early?). Try giving him a snack of fruit or a sandwich with some milk (at around 8:30 p.m.), it may keep him more satiated and will provide better sleep. Honestly, some children just do not require a lot of sleep! Good luck.

Answer 9

My kids both sleep through the night 10-12 hours since about 7-8 weeks old. They are 2 1/2 and 15 months old now.

We never check them when they move or cry at night unless they are sick. They always fall back asleep on their own.
I did find this article that may help you though:
http://www.mindspring.com/~drwarren/sleep.htm

Answer 10

Its ok because mine is doing the same thing. She used to sleep great and then stop suddenly. i tried the control crying but she just kept throwing up the harder she creid. I eventaully went to the Chemist/Pharmacy and they gave me a Baby Antihistamine to make her drowsy and it works. She still wakes once ro twice but its better then what it was. Try limiting his naps to one, 45 minute nap and by about 9pm he will be so tired all he will do is sleep.