When Starting a Relationship how do you gain a man's respect? Girls and Guys... please answer. I'm a virgin

Question

I'm a Virgin and want to sleep with him eventually. In the past I have told all the guys I have dated that I won't sleep with them. 6months after dating my last boyfriend I wanted to have sex. The thing is, he never went any further than kissing because he thought I didn't want that. Once I trust my new man I definately want to have oral sex with him. I do that with boys when I hook up. How do I let him know this when I'm ready without it being awkward?

If a girl wants respect from a guy, how long is the norm to wait before having oral sex and then sex?

Thanks Everyone.

Answer 1

well since you've kept up the good work so far you might as well wait until your wedding night to have sex. There isn't a specific time to have sex with someone, its when you feel ready.

Answer 2

You have to understand that each person is different.

Some men will not respect you no matter what you do.
a.k.a jerks. Maybe they got screwed by their last girl and no longer care for anyone else. Or what not, so no matter what you say or do may or may not have an effect on the issue of respect.

Besides, respect is earned on more than one level. Integrity, intelligence, beauty, etc.

As for telling your mates that you are a virgin and don't plan on having sex until what? marriage?

Why state that if you don't mean it? You stated in your question that you don't mind 6 months down the road. I don't think this is a time frame issue.

Sex is always an awkward topic. But when you are in heat, I'm sure it becomes very comfortable. :^P

If you both are virgins... it's bound to be awkward.

Sex has no chronological order of things. (oral --> intercourse)
Do you really have to be clear on how you want things to happen?

It sounds soo... ummm.. unnatural. Or maybe I'm just traditional.

Sex will not sustain your relationship if you feel virginity is hindering your progress of a relationship with the opposite sex. Some say sex ends the relationship faster.

Anyways, please be aware that you can spread communicable diseases by having oral sex as well and should always wear a condom should you "go all the way".

Sex is a pleasurable act, moral act, and reproductive act which is weighed differently depending on people's upbringing.

The experience should be shared with someone special if possible in my personal opinion and should not be freely given to just anyone.

But hey, that's me. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

I cannot imagine that each man comes up to you and says "hey baby... so what's the plan of attack in regards to love making".

If they do... I think you need to stay clear from them.

If you want him to know when you are ready. Well... a nice victoria secret outfit or hanky panky, leading him with subtle cues would be plenty. :^P Touching his other brain is always easy to understand. hahahaa

Just be careful and not to lead him on and put him in heat to only let him know that it ain't gonna happen. When the hormones are kicking... lack of communication can make things heat up in a not so good way. So your reasons for making things clear is understandable.

I'm sure I wasn't helpful. Sorry... not an easy thing to discuss with a complete stranger with possibly different belief systems, age differences, etc.

Answer 3

I think it's important to not speak in absolutes, and to TALK with him about your thoughts. After you've been on a few dates, you'll probably start talking about past relationships. Mention that you previously were not willing to consider sexual relationships, but that it is a possibility now, but that you want to take things slowly. Yes it will be awkward but if you have a relationship built upon trust and love, you will get through it. The awkwardness is inevitable - and it's part of the fun! :)

Answer 4

"I definately want to have oral sex with him. I do that with boys when I hook up.".

For me that would be an immediate lose of respect towards a girl. The best way to earn respect is to give it and to have self respect aswel. If you are ready to have sex talk to him about it, see what he thinks.

Answer 5

there is nothing like a standard wait time.
its all variant in different cases. its upto you - when you feel comfortable. its good that he is patient about sex and all that - but its not only sex in a relationship.

gaining respect from a guy ---- be patient and wise and most important - take care of him and everything related to him -

a lot of people would ask you to test him - do this - do that - some will ask you not to trust him ---------- trust me - if you have a good feeling - do everything to make the relation the best.

Answer 6

Be clear and concise when beginning a new relatioship.
Let your prosepective partner know that you will move ahead with physical intimacy only as you feel comfortable. You will not be pressured into sex, but you are not ruling it out wither. You just want to take your time.
I think in regards to gaining respect, your partner should respect you from the beginning... you don't have to 'earn it'

Answer 7

why don't you just wait until you guys get married? he'd respect you more if he knows that you wouldn't just give it to him at the snap of his fingers. even oral sex.

When you get something easily, you don't value it too much.
Playing hard to get is not common anymore nowadays. but men still value girls who do so. just don't be too OA about it.

Answer 8

we don't ask for respect..we just gain it!no matter how freak u are in having sex or on anything!!

Answer 9

oh my god.only i can advice you is...dont be naughty to him..hahahahahaha!!!coz many mans are cheater to women u know..so much better to wait the right person..coz ur still virgin give your virginity to the right person for u ok!!

Answer 10

A few weeks should be long enough.