Ok, my mom just got her 2nd job today. Now she works from like 7am till 2pm at a Dry Cleaners and lik 3-9 at a deli. My dad just sits in his room playing games ALL DAY! We lost everything in Katrina, after Katrina AND before Katrina my dad had a job so i know he can work. My mom uses the excuse that he "had a stroke" which he did. But if he worked after he had the stroke and had no problems why cant he do it now ? Or atleast help around the house or something. maybe im being inconsiderate but i believe if he can play video games, drive, and work on his car he can work. Its making me mad at him like all the time, and i hate it :\ i dont like being mad. Should i feel differently ? Am i being inconsiderate Im 15yrs old.
2007-01-05 16:54:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i have talked to him many times. i dont know what the hell. it just aggravates me that my mom is doing EVERYTHING! and she is still the nicest and all i love her soooo much and i dont wanna have to have bad feelings towards my dad. he also was in jail from the time i was 6yrs old till the time i was 12. i dunno man i just feel really mad at him and i dont want to.
2007-01-05 17:04:29 · update #1
oh and his stroke was like 2yrs ago... as i said he HAS worked since then he did roofing work . then when katrina hit he worked for a fema company doing field work or sumtin.
2007-01-05 17:13:22 · update #2
sOUNDS LIKE YOUR DAD IS GETTING USED TO BEING TAKEN CARE OF. you sound like a good son who notices
that your mom is being taken advantage of. Talk to her about
and do as much as you can around the house as possible.
it may be hard for her to get your dad back to work , so try and
be patient , she will appreciate it. on the other handYour dad may be needing some time out he may be suffering from depression.
2007-01-05 17:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by norma jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong. You are looking at the situation as an adult even though your not. Maybe your dad does have a heart issue...but if your mom is allowing him to do Nothing...than that is something she has to address...not you. I am a mom of 2, 1 of which is a teen, and she can say anything to me, but she knows I know whats best even though she does not know the entire situation. In this case, you may not know all the is involved or what the deal really is. I would either sit privately with your mom in a non-threatening manner and say what you feel...or B., write a a letter a put it in her purse so she is sure to read it away from home for discussion. I feel for you though...I hate to see children deal with issues when childhood is soooo short. Good luck.
2007-01-06 01:03:15 · answer #2 · answered by jshorePR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mother is making excuses then likely she knows what the problem is. It is probably depression as some of the other people have pointed out. You need to talk to your mom - respectfully - to get some answers. Whatever you do, try not to be angry with him. It is not going to be productive. I know you miss your mother - she's gone all the time now. But chances are neither of these situations will last, so don't ruin any relationships now while things aren't going well in your family.
2007-01-06 01:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lay off the poor guy...he just went through stroke AND katrina? ouch...he has to be thinking that he lost everything he ever owned and his health is flying out the window...ya, i call it depression, look at it from his point....wouldnt you be playing videogames all day? He i doing that and working on his car to think about other things...give him a few monthes...like 3 or 4, depending on how he is..and then have your mom politely confront him...trust me, i have been the the 10th layer of the underworld with family and back....it wasnt fun..
2007-01-06 01:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by monkeyinaplane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad sounds like he may be depressed and this might be more of a problem than his stroke, especially if your family has lost a lot with Katrina. If he is physically and mentally able to talk, walk, and otherwise take care of himself at home, then you need to figure out, with your mother, how to kick him out of his rut.
2007-01-06 00:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by Stephan P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the possibility that he may be depressed? His behavior reminds of someone who is a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic. He refuses to work (he is functional if taking his meds) and sits around all day playing a computer game. It might be that he needs some psychological help.
2007-01-06 00:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd say that Dad may be suffering from Depression and not the effects of a stroke.
You're not wrong in your anger towards him; as he Should step-up, especially Now!
I'd see about getting all of you together in a counseling session? I know, yuck! Really!
2007-01-06 01:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try telling this to your Dad? There might be some health issues that your parents are hiding from you? Or he might just be plain lazy as you say. Sit down and talk with him. Tell him how you feel.
2007-01-06 00:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by curtf1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree i would be mad tell him to get off his lazy a## and at least help around the house or get a job.
2007-01-06 01:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL U !!
UR JUST FRUSTRATED... DONT BE MAD ..... boost his confidence cause when a person is out of work for too long they get used to it . he needs to get out of that rut he is in.
2007-01-06 01:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋