My ex broke up with me and we were constantly fighting but I was always trying to make it work because I love him. Two days after the break, he finds another girlfriend and I met her two weeks ago. The thing is we decided to be friends and it's worked Okay (cuz Im still hurt) except for when he mentions her. And Im wondering if it should hurt as much as I feel. I want to still be friends with him, but Im wondering if that pain will ever go away especially since he was my first love and I gave him everything.
2007-01-05 16:49:59 · 12 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im going through something similar with my ex but we are planning to pick up our pieces together. But before that , me and him were just friends and i told him i wouldn't be his friend because the fact is, the day you and your partner confirm you 2 love each other, you both are way past friends. Its too hard too downgrade to "just friends" after emotions been established. Babygirl its going to hurt! Thats just how it goes... it hurt so bad you get this sick feeling in your chest to your stomach.. But i promise you, you will heal. It will slow down the healing progress being friends with him. Its too much to watch him move on and you ignore your feelings. Babe your only human..
Try talking to him about it and pray to god to heal your broken heart.
I hope my advice help some what
Good luck........
2007-01-05 17:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by OOhSooFlyyyy....... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happen to me we broke up and he got a girlfriend straight away.Don't worry he'll come back to u when he realise that no other girl the same as u, but if u find someone that loves u again u feelings for your ex will go away cause u got someone else.
2007-01-06 00:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Zexyana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does hurt. You know you can break your arm or leg and have it reset and put into a cast for healing... there isn't anything that really helps the heart except time.
They call it a breakup because it was broke. Accept that and try hard to move on. You will find someone who really deserves you and your kindness.
2007-01-06 00:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABC's right, leave him be! I know what's it's like and yes it does hurt and it will only get worse! Wait until he gets married! My ex got married 2 months after we broke up. It's been a year now and I see him every once in awhile but it doesn't hurt anymore. Let him go and you move on! It's for the best!
2007-01-06 00:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by sunshineprincess032003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear J.B.
I am sharing my pain with you here. I just lost my love in the X'mas too. I lost 3 years of my **TIME**.
A true friend is a friend who won't ditch you at any moment. The b/f or g/f should be one level higher than the true friend. So starting from the moment when you b/f ditched you, he was no longer your true friend.
**FORGET ABOUT HIM** (I know it hurts. But this is what we have to do and what I am doing now). ****REMEMBER, your true love should NEVER EVER dump you even when you are handicapped. Also, your true love won't find another g/f within two days. SAME WITH MY CASE!!!**** Read my word carefully and wake up - ME TOO!!!!
2007-01-06 01:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ocean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a break from him to fully recover. You obviously are not over him- and having him in your life still as friends is not going to make the situation and easier. Until you are able to accep the fact that he has moved on will the pain go away.
2007-01-06 00:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU really Can't be "friends" with an Ex that you still have feelings for.
Everytime he kisses her in your presence will be like daggers tearing at your eyes.
To get over him, you need distance and time. If you keep hanging around him, you will never heal, and he'll merely get the idea that he has an easy "emergency backup" in case the girl he's with dumps him.
Do you really want to lower yourself to being his fallback option??
2007-01-06 00:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you want to be friends with him, to be close to him, you need to take care of yourself. Healing, especially when it was your first love, takes a long time. If you continue to see him and spend time with him and continue to hurt while he dates this other girl, you are only further damaging yourself. I'm not suggesting that you never speak to him again, but in the end, you are all you have and you need to take care of yourself.
2007-01-06 00:53:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pain will eventually go away in time... I suggest that you ease away from him though. It's like this - if you were to be stabbed in the arm and the knife was still in it, piercing it... it wouldn't heal very well, right? You need to take some time away from him and let yourself heal. Just keep super busy and away from the phone!
2007-01-06 00:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by TalkingTomato 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first one always stings the most. If he's going to continue bluntly hurting you this way, you have to leave him. The boy's not worth it, he's not a man.
2007-01-06 00:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by i♥sf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋