I know this is an awkward question but I had to ask it. I have a boyfriend, I am STRAIGHT. But I just find the idea of doing things with my best friends so hot...it turns me on because it's so bad. But my best friends would most likely think I was nuts or a lesbian if I asked to do things with them. How do you bring something like that up!?!?
2007-01-05 16:42:56 · 33 answers · asked by ashley r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay let me make this clear - I reeealllly like my boyfriend. I do not LIKE girls. No, lol, I am not in denial. I mean - have any women in this room done things with their girlfriends just to experiment?
2007-01-05 16:48:58 · update #1
This cleared me up. Wow I just really need to get more physical with my guy. He's shy. I want him now :)
2007-01-05 17:21:14 · update #2
I think that you can be basically straight and yet still be bi-curious without it making you bisexual. It may just be a passing fantasy and not something you want to add to your repertoire on a lifetime basis. And if you are young and still experimenting, it definitely might just be a phase.
Because people often don't understand these things, I wouldn't bring it up with anyone I didn't trust completely if I were you. If you think your friends would think you are nuts or a lesbian, don't talk to them about it. You don't need their misunderstanding and labeling. Find other people perhaps online who are similarly bicurious to chat with anonymously so that you can figure out how strong your interest in having same-sex relations is. Is it just a fantasy or are you really bisexual? Do you really want to act on your fantasy or just leave it as an idle fantasy and nothing more? If you actually did meet another woman who wanted to experiment with you, would you go through with it? I think that talking to others who might be having similar feelings might help you figure all of that out. Best of luck!
2007-01-05 17:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Jump Back 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your simply experiencing those feelings that everyone is talking about. at some point every girl wonders what it would be like to be with another girl. some go for it and regret it. others realize they're bi or lesbians, and others simply enjoy it and move on with life and boyfriends. if you really want to experiment with your friends wait for a time when you are all hanging out at on of your houses or any other private place and start talking about sex. bring up the "experimenting" topic and how its so popular now a days, and the conversation will flow from there. if you are truly straight, then this urge is going to go away at some point. i guess there's only one way to find out :)
2007-01-05 16:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a tuff one. I guess u just need to hint around to them of what they think of the idea. usually talking about what other ppl do will help the conversation. ppl meaning someone else besides u and ur friend's if u bring it up in such a way that u r like. hey guys i heard about this person who tried this and what is ur opinion maybe u will see how they truly feel. sometimes using the i know someone who did kinda works if u word it right. but if u notice that they start wigging out and acting like all yuck and stuff then back off and don't bring it up unless they do first.
2007-01-05 16:51:32 · answer #3 · answered by tigger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not straight. Probably bisexual, but don't lie to yourself.
Now, with that out of the way, why not have a threesome with your
boyfriend? Have him be the one asking her, so it won't seem like
omg you're a big sketchy lesbian or whatever it is you're worried about.
Or just get get him and her in the same place and say "Let's get naked
and fool around." Just that simple. Don't stress over it.
2007-01-05 16:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by eselgeist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just wanting to experiment. You might like it better than guys so be careful. If you want to bring it up just ask her if she's ever thought about doing it with you and see what she says...You can always pass it off as a joke or something if she's not interested.
2007-01-05 16:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could talk on your chum's boyfriend to get issues right away, do no longer try this at the back of your chum's decrease back yet while he asks you ought to tell him. i could clarify to him which you and his boyfriend are sturdy buddies and function been for an prolonged time yet while he feels you 2 are spending too plenty time jointly ask him for his enter, it is going to first of all make him experience plenty greater beneficial which you're asking him what he could want to work out take place, considering that is his relationship along with your chum and doubtless he would be easier on you interior the destiny, and likewise tell him you do no longer want to reason him or your chum any issues of their relationship. i could deliver over my superb chum and function dinner with them, so your chum's boyfriend see's that he can nonetheless be somewhat of the occasion and you do no longer experience like a 0.33 wheel. sturdy good fortune!!!
2016-12-12 05:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really weird because I struggle with the same thing. Honestly I hate to tell someone to hide how they feel, but until you are willing to except the fact that your friend might never want to talk to you again you might want to keep it to yourself or find someone else who is interested in the same thing. I mean it could go the other way, but if it doesn't are you willing to loose her or them as a friend?
2007-01-05 16:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be bisexual. If you live in a large city or near a college campus, there are probably groups designed to allow bisexuals, lesbians, etc, to mingle among themselves without the fear of being labeled a freak. See if you can track one down and explore your sexuality.
2007-01-05 16:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by Amy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is actually VERY normal for another woman to get turned on by thoughts or watching porno of lesbians.
As to how to break the ice with one of ur friends to see if they would like to experiment-- you're on your own for that one. But if it works lemme know how you approached it, LOL.
2007-01-05 16:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they're really your friends, I think they'll understand. At a teen age, this feeling is common. Argh, don't ask how I know... I think I was the only one paying attention in Health class all year!
2007-01-05 16:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Diamonds_R_4Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋