Is it all right for an engaged woman to go clubbing?

Question

My fiancée and I are young and recently engaged. She is older than me and wants to go clubbing on her 18th birthday. lol. Is that faithful? Aren't clubs places to bump and grind on guys and to meet and possibly hook up with them, as well. I'm worried and obviously insecure. I trust her, but couldn't she just wait a couple months til we're both old enough to get into the same club? =[ Any advice? Also, is there a higher chance of a taken guy going to a club and cheating or girl- statistically speaking, of course. Thanks

Answer 1

First,you have to decide for yourself if its ok.Its what you and your fiancee discuss and are comfortable with.Sounds like you need to discuss it and tell her your feelings.How would she feel if it were you?Some people wouldnt care,I believe most would.
For the most part clubs are meathouses.Bad idea.

Answer 2

It would be difficult to get the statistics of that as most people will give the most socially desirable answer when asked. Even those who say -yes- they've cheated are probably not representative of the population of people who've cheated.

As for is it right ... Well, what do you think? It is your relationship and if you're concerned then you should tell HER. Telling Yahoo is good for getting your fears out in the open, but the amount of biased advice given based on personal experience far outweighs the positives.

I don't think that going to a club is being unfaithful. Clubs aren't necessarily for bumping and grinding and hooking up with men. I went to many clubs while in various stages of a relationship and did nothing more than have a few drinks, hang out with my girls and dance. Was just a good time, a way to blow off any accumulated stress.

I'm not sure why you are -obviously- insecure. If you love her and trust her then why do you only trust her in certain situations? Trust and love should not be conditional on situations only where you are present.

I would say that you need to voice your concerns and insecurities to her, and come to a compromise you can both live with.

Good luck.

Answer 3

You can meet a guy at the grocery store. Are you going to stop her from buying ingredients for dinner and toothpaste?

You can meet a guy at the bank. Are you going to do all the banking for her.

You can meet a guy answering the doorbell when he's selling something. Are you going to lock her in a room and keep her there?

Either you trust her or you don't. If you don't, then why are you marrying her?

Answer 4

I want to offer my advice and please don't take offense, this is not an ideal age for marrying. You are young (both of you) this is the time for exploration/fun/education/independence not the time for the extensive give/take and compromise of marriage.

Rethink the marriage thing until you are both at least 21, able to go and drink @ the same club. In the meantime make your relationship stronger.

Answer 5

i'd say its fine

if u trust her, show her that u trust her, and if ur insecure, go with her

plus, its her 18th birthday - let her have fun - it comes once in a lifetime, and that birthday is showin shez now an adult

Answer 6

Girls get hit on more, no matter where they go, especially in places that serve alcohol. If you trust her, than you should have nothing to worry about though.

Answer 7

If you trust her then let her go. She only has an 18th birthday once.

Answer 8

omg DONT GET MARRIED!! you have ure whole life ahead of you... ure a baby, n trust me there will be plenty of girls in ure future. clubbing? hahahahah NO! thats a good place to meet guys n gurls who are SINGLE!...omg get a clue!

Answer 9

Sure, it's all about trust, just make sure her seal license is up to date in case she gets to many.

Answer 10

Hey it is better to find out if you can trust her before you marry her ( right) ?