My in=laws forgot my daughters birthday. I was very upset about it, she turned 2, i sent them pictures from her 2nd birthday and even the invitation to her birthday party, even though I know they couldnt come. Should I saw something, its almost a month later, and if so, what should I say? I dont want to be rude, but I dont want it to happen again?
Thanks!!
2007-01-05 16:33:02 · 14 answers · asked by etrombetta41402 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would bring up something about the party , and say , I wish you would have been there , and see what they say .
2007-01-05 16:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter, your in-laws, which makes it THEIR granddaughter! There has to be a logical reason, maybe they did send something and you didn't get it. Also it sounds like you sent pictures and an invitation AFTER the fact! So whats up with that? Not that I'm excusing the grandparents for not at least calling and talking to their granddaughter and wishing her a happy birthday. But are you and your husband keeping up enough contact to have the granddaughter in their life as much as possible? You can't make people do things, you can only find out WHY .............sometimes! Seems like there's more to the issue here.
2007-01-06 01:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Oregon_Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear this all the time. Have you ever forgotten something that was very important to do? There you have it. They must have forgotten or probably had other things planned. Who knows what their situation was. Plus, you said you knew they couldn't come!
If you sent them pictures, I am sure they have enjoyed them very much.
As long as your daughter had a wonderful birthday and she had so much fun, is what counts. She will probably not even remember her 2nd birthday anyway!
So don't call them and be rude. Because that's what you will be is rude to them. If it happens again, so be it. Who's birthday is it anyway? You may want to ask yourself this question.What harm will I do if by calling them and asking them why they didn't come to the birthday party? Then you will hear their answer. Is it going to change things how you feel about them, if they said they couldn't make it because they forgot or had something else planned? Or, are you going to be selfish and hold a grudge against them because you didn't have it your way? Or, is it going to make you feel good because all you wanted to call them for, is what excuse they had for not coming?
So don't be rude, and don't call them.
Hope your daughter had a fabulous birthday! (smile)
2007-01-06 01:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law did this to my kids when they were growing up. My kids were just 11 months apart. Sometimes she would send something to one and not the other. I always bought a gift and wrapped it and kept it on hand just in case. This way my kids always got something from my in laws. When they got old enough to want to thank them for the gift, it was a little embarrassing to them that they did not know what they gave so they became better about remembering to buy their own gifts. I really didn't know what else to do. My husband talked to his Mom once about it but it never did any good. The kids never noticed that they didn't get a gift from in laws. It was my husband and I that were hurt. Kids don't think like that its the parents that bring their attention to it. My kids were in their teens before they figured it out.
2007-01-06 00:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not much you can do they either will remember or they won't. I had a mother in law that never sent my 2 kid a birthday card ever, not once, and yet her other grand kids received large money gifts up until the day she died when they were 40. so there is not telling
2007-01-06 00:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you should leave it up to your hubby to mention something. But I would honestly bring it up myself. I would try the sugary sweet approach. Like saying "Oh I am so sorry that you missed (insert name here) 2nd birthday party. Its a shame that she didn't have both grandparents there. She really misses you guys , blah blah blah" Lay the guilt trip on heavily.
2007-01-06 00:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would maybe casually bring up the party in conversation and see what they say about the subject. If you don't want to do that I would ask your husband to say something to them about it since they are his parents and they may not get as upset if they hear it from him.
2007-01-06 01:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥JoJo♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I am sorry...but in laws can be weird...they have strange baggage they bring into the relationship and family...just let it go and expect nothing from them....just love your kids and don't worry about the extended family
2007-01-06 00:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Olive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically you should go and let them have it, but its behind yu now. Just make sure they know about it next year
2007-01-06 00:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Tony F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd send them a video of the happy party, or pics. and say Thanks for being there with us!
They should get the message, if they're humans!
2007-01-06 01:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋