In my intire life I have been people before my on feelings. To me if I make other people happy than that is fine with me but lately i've been trying to make myself happy and eerybody is saying that I have let them down. I really don't like feeling that I have let people down. It makes my sad when I do to the point to where I want to cry. I realy want to make everybody happy but I don't know how any more. Everything that I have done in my life has lead to me not being happy because I have let people down. Im trying so hard not to do that but it neer fells me doing that. People have always trusted me to do everything but as soon as I can't help or do something they always get mad. Im never just not letting people down. I have to always help always be the one to help. I don't know what to do without it. What's wrong with me? Am I suppose to be happy? Do I have to make other people happy to be happy? I don't know what im suppose to do any more. I just......???????
2007-01-05 16:26:50 · 9 answers · asked by chinquittia_john18 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is it that you did? Did you leave someone at the altar? Slept with your father? What?????
2007-01-05 16:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. I went through this for a long time myself, the whole trying to please others/always helping out thing.
It took an unplanned pregnancy for me to realize that life is what you make of it & sometimes you have to make other people unhappy to make YOU happy. In the end, if these people truly care about you, then what makes you happy will also make them happy. Sounds confusing, but it is really quite simple.
Remember that at the end of the day, the only person you are "stuck with" is yourself...so do YOU want to be miserable all of your life while others are happy? Or do you want to do some things for YOU?
2007-01-06 00:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by mamitasaritabendita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can spend your whole life trying to make other people happy. If you can find some happiness of your own then don't you think that you deserve to? Be as caring for yourself as you are other people and let yourself be happy as well. Happiness is hard to come by so if you have a chance to find it then go for it!
2007-01-06 00:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, Just like everyone in this world deserves to be happy! Not to make this sound mean but you can't please everyone. I have experienced something similar to you. You have worried about helping and making others happy you have lost track of what makes YOU happy. I think being open and honest with everyone will help. Tell them you need a break and reconnect with yourself. Once you have done this be happy with who you are. And know that you are only one person.
2007-01-06 00:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by angie.shrout@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have gotten your self on a loop , the more you help people the more they expect. so simply tell them you need to take some time to regenerate, and that they are going to have to do the work them selves, Do not worry about their feelings as they are not thinking of you or they would respect your needs, . You have every right to be happy first off and for most so do it//// also do not look to others for approval or happiness. You know your self so give your self the approval that you want and need
2007-01-06 00:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what,i think you've done doing your part in making them happy before and now its your turn to be happy.do what you think is right and what really makes you happy.you have all the right to be happy!dont worry about the people around you coz if you do,you'll end up being more sad.they should be more understanding with your feelings.dont let them run your life.keep in mind that you cannot please everybody and life is not about them,its about you.just dont do something illegal then you're good to go.lol.if they're a true friend or family then they should understand..
2007-01-06 00:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♥heartbreaker♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find people w/ similar interests as your own and surround yourself with them, that way u will all be happy
2007-01-06 00:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Paulie Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is find a way to keep you and keep everyone ele happy. Its going to be tough, but you will find a way
2007-01-06 00:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tony F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you, you are dealing with a bunch of selfish people who dont care much of your well being. You are not perfect nor will you ever be, so please cut yourself some slack, you do it for everybody else
2007-01-06 00:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋