She moved here 4 months ago, and my cousin and his sister are her only friends, and my cousin dated her for 2 months. He couldn't commit, so he broke it off, and now I've had the pleasure of meeting and spending time alone with her. I felt an immediate connection, but two things are bothering me: she's 28 and I'm almost 23, and she already dated my cousin and feels a little awkward still associating with his (extended) family. I really like her, and could see a future with her, but I don't want to put her in an awkward position. What do I do?
2007-01-05 16:23:44 · 10 answers · asked by Spiderman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just don't let you be her rebound. And think about how it might affect your cousin, too.
2007-01-05 16:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Raine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now, probably not. i'm sorry to say this. firstly, she's older than you by 6 years, so she probably don't feel secure with you. in addition and secondly, it was your cousin who broke off and why did he? cos he can't commit. with this happening, she may be left with poor impression of people related to him, and she might associate this lack of commitment to you. it'll take time for her to accept the fact that despite the fact that two of you are related, you are different from the person who broke her heart, and that you being younger doesn't mean that you're not mature. spend more time with her, cultivate good relationship, let her know that she can rely on you at all times-- this would help in improving your chance with her. all the best :)
2007-01-06 00:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference isn't the real issue, but, your cousin is! It's not a good idea to get involved with someone that a relative was involved with! Talk with your cousin, and see how he feels about a possible relationship between you and his ex. If he's truly OK with it, then go for it, but, if not, then you need to move on!
2007-01-06 00:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
datz not dat much of an age difference i ve known people dat are like 11 yrz old dating 19 yrz old now datz creepy but ii think u should ask her out on a date or something and see how things go and if she likes u she will eventualli tell u at some point,
2007-01-06 00:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Cherry Blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats a younger man have to worry about? She's not in need of a baby sitter so let her know how and what you feel, she's gona be the decider anyhow so get it done while theres some feelings happening. All's fair in love & war...someone said.
2007-01-06 00:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't much older so don't stop for that reason, and the family will understand. An immediate connection is Divine Intervention so you have NO choice..go get her!!
2007-01-06 00:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister married a fellow 9 yrs younger than her. They have been happily married for over 20 years.
2007-01-06 00:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by doggybag300 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it just take it slow.
2007-01-06 00:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how badly you want it.
2007-01-06 00:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you do go for it
2007-01-06 00:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋