So, I told my dad the other day that I will be moving out this summer on my own so I can be closer to college but mainly for the reason that I feel that it is the right thing to do. See, I noticed I have a problem in making decisions and following through with them, I'm too complacement at my parent's house, I'm at a good age to move out (23), and want to start learning about life even if it will give me rainy or sunny days. I know I will stress w/ bills, lonliness, and just juggling school w/ work and my personal life. My dad said, "If you move out, you will be devoured!" That kind of hurt me...did he mean that I will fail? He told me the reality is harsh. I have been kind of worried lately because I know I'll be lonely living by myself since I'm so use to living w/ my family...I don't need to prove to my dad I can do it...but I am a bit scared? Is that normal?
2007-01-05 16:20:40 · 8 answers · asked by bettyboop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your dad is just afraid for you. If he thinks that you are incapable of making it on your own, then that is actually a reflection of how you were raised. At 23 you should probably start looking at getting your life started. But there is always a compromise. Maybe you don't necessarily have to move out... or do it a slow pace where you do get your own place but spend a lot of time with the family... maybe a place close to where your family lives. For parents it's hard to let go of their kids, no matter the age. He is just worried. Will it be hard for you? Of course. There are few people I know that don't find it hard. Be concerned but don't dread it. It's all part of growing up and moving on. Just remember that you have a family that loves you enough to want to keep you home.
2007-01-05 17:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by ailolyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine. I moved out when I was 18 and had no problem with it really. Deep down your father doesnt want you to leave. You have to live your life for you. You can still visit him, and it will actually make your relationship better. It is normal to be scared, but proper planning will take you in the right direction. Find a roommate, a decent job, and the rest will fall into place. Its not that hard to pay bills (as long as you have a job) just pay them online!
2007-01-05 16:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by Drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably time for you to move out. I don't know why your father would say such a thing, but he obviously wants you to stay. It is hard on parents when their kids move out, but neither do parents want their kids staying forever. If you are the youngest or the only, then it will be harder on your folks. Just be nice to them and make sure they know that it is nothing personal, just that you want to be closer to college, and make sure they know you will be in touch and won't just drop out of their lives. It is really hard sometimes when parents see their kids go on to the next stage of life, so take it easy on your dad. I'm sure you are a bit scared but you'll be fine. You'll develop your own life and find out what kind of person you really are.
2007-01-05 16:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be scared too. I think that we are all a little scared to go out on our own and what may happen, and that you want to be able to do it on your own. To deal with the lonliness I would see about getting a room mate and that would also help with bills.
2007-01-05 17:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♥JoJo♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 03:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal to be scared moving out of your parents home. Dads always try to scare their little girls. It is hard to see them grow up and venture out on their own. Do what you feel is right for you. Dad will still love you and you will always be his little girl.
2007-01-05 16:28:07 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right it is a guilt trip and not very respectful on their part, ask him if he raised a child or a responsible adult. I would love to hear the answer. You have to get your wings some time and you sound ready to me good luck and have fun
2007-01-05 16:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he expect you to live with them forever? you're 23. you need to experience these things. i started earlier. if you think it's the right thing to do, do it.
2007-01-05 16:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by Contra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋