ok its like this every relationship ive had ive always been both used and abused in all sorts of ways and i dont even do anything to deserve im confused
2007-01-05 16:06:22 · 16 answers · asked by sexy honda girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you should lay off the serious relationships and just focus on getting to know the guy.......for a LONG time before you move on...........get to know every aspect of him........get to know his friends and family.......honestly the best relationships are the ones in which you are REALLY good friends first......because that way you know them and what to expect from them.........really GET TO KNOW THEM FIRST......
2007-01-05 16:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by jamie_lynn_1109 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I am in that boat too. I am all set with relationships for a while. Just keep busy..it is different for everyone the reason why this reoccurring abuse takes place. It is a cycle. It may be that you grew up in a household where abuse was an everyday way of life and that way of life was "normal" for you.
My grand mother was in an abusive relationship. My Dad was pretty mean to my mom and my mom was also abused by her dad. The relationships I have had have left little to be desired..
Stay single for a while...set some goals. You have been through a lot of what you don't want in a relationship. You have experienced that contrast. Stay single for a while. When the right opportunity arrives you will know what it is that you do want to have in a relationship, good luck.
2007-01-05 16:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. You just got to choose carefully, and learn from past relationships. You started a trend maybe because you pick the same type of guys, you put out too soon. But u dont deserve any kind of abuse if ur giving him all the love u can. Just wait for the right person. Once a relationship gets sour leave the guy, because the longer u wait the worst the abuse is gonna get.
2007-01-05 16:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by tragickingdom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people keep getting in relationships with similar people, not uncommon. sometimes what we say we want in a partner and the qualities of the partner don't match. In your case it is a big issue because of your safety. You need to make sure that you are safe from this person first of all. Nobody needs to be abused in any fashion. Then you should really just do some hard core reflecting. Sometimes this happens because we simply just keep picking the same qualities in a person whether we know it or not that's all. And dating is all about figuring out what we like and don't like and gaining experience. So don't blame yourself, just pay more attention to guys you're considering and any gut feelings you have
2007-01-05 16:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by ha! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe its just that you are going out with the wrong kind of guys!!! When you come upon this kinda situation you are the only one who can make it stop...either by ending it, or talking to the person about what you feel is going on and seeing if it can be corrected. Maybe you need to be more self confident, and dont let these guys walk all over you, as long as they know they can do it believe me, they will. And keep in mind..there are plenty of fish in the sea...there is no reason that you should allow yourself to be used and abused by anyone. Have enough respect for yourself to realize that no relationship is better than one where that is going on.
2007-01-05 16:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by giggles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's every relationship, what's the common denominator? In relationships where one person is mistreated or taken for granted, in whatever way that may be, it is usually because the person allows it. Have a little pride, some sense of self worth... get some self esteem and don't put up with it. You may not do anything to deserve it but it sounds like you don't do anything to prevent it.
2007-01-05 16:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by ailolyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow the behavior to go on until I'm assuming you finally get fed up.Try being/getting fed up when it occurs.People only do to us what we allow them to do to us.Stop the behavior dead in it's tracks and stand up for yourself.Love yourself enough to know that you deserve respect.Demand it or continue to be used and abused!
2007-01-05 16:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by fnocentelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you must allow them to. People treat you the way you let them. You must stand up for yourself and when you first recognize abuse or being used, you move on. Don't hang around for more and learn from your experiences.
2007-01-05 16:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dianne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going for the wrong guys. I have heard that friends make the best boyfriends. I am married to my best friend. We knew each other for 12 years before we dated. No one thought we'd ever hook up. Anyway, that is my advice. Try dating a friend that grabs your interest. Good luck!
2007-01-05 16:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by There can only be one - (ANSWER) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are dating the same kind of men. I think you know the answer to this one. The truth is that the people that you date are a reflection of you. Check yourself.
2007-01-05 16:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by beautifulinsideandoutinjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋