So I met this guy about three weeks ago. We really like each other, well as much as you can from knowing a person for three weeks. The problem is that I am studying abroad soon, and he doesnt want to wait for me for the five months that i will be gone. We can talk and write etc. but wont be able to see each other. Am I being unreasonable by expecting him to wait. I figure if you really like a person, and you have A LOT in common and really get along, that five months isn't that bad. He told me he sees himself being with me long term, if I wasnt leaving. What do you think?
2007-01-05 15:50:46 · 21 answers · asked by ImAGoodGirl0605 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he could not be serious about you. i mean if he says he sees you as long term then whats the problem of waiting 5 months? maybe its because you've only known eachother 3 weeks which is not a long time. but then again there are some people that are not willing to wait a certain period of time for a relationship. mostly guys. its stupid, i know. but its just like when they break up with girls because they realize they're falling for them. guys are sometimes really hard to understand. your not being that unreasonable because he supposedly feels the same way about you as you do for him, and that makes me think that you would wait for him, wouldnt you? but then again 5 months is not such a short period to wait. a lot of things can change and happen in 5 months. with him and with you. you dont know if during the time that you are away you will find someone else. i believe that the best way to solve this is to not expect him him to wait for you and still keep in touch as friends. if by the time you come back the feelings are still there, then restart everything. or you could tell him to at least try to wait for you and see what happens. either way i wish you good luck :)
2007-01-05 16:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to know I'm not the only one in that boat. Okay, so first thing's first - 5 months is a long time, if you've only been together 3 weeks. Also, how long has he been out of a relationship? If it's less than five months, then I can understand his reluctancy to wait. If he's been single for a while, and you two work really well together, then hopefully he'll realize the bond you share, and wait for you to return. Hope this helped. ; )
2007-01-05 23:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Spiderman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks isn't a very long time, regardless of how well you've hit it off. The shiny newness of a relationship can wear off rather fast, and the people beneath the puppy eyes are exposed, sometimes in a less than ideal way. But I will say that it sounds like he genuinely likes you and wants you around, which is a good thing. I'd try to keep in contact with him and see where things lead when you get back, or even while you're gone. Hearts can change, you know! Hopefully in your favor :)
2007-01-05 23:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by xxhalloqueenxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I do think you are being unreasonable. Three weeks is a nice amount of time to learn about someone, but if he is leaving AND he has laready said he does not want to wait, well, then don't wait. "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." If this guy genuinely sees a future with you, he will miss the time you are apart and will look forward to the time you can reconnect. Until then, enjoy your single life... Go out with your friends and enjoy yourself. Best wishes to you!
2007-01-05 23:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by izzywillynillyone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that three weeks isn't enough time to make that kind of commitment. But he might come around... maybe he is just trying to get you to not go. Now THAT would be unreasonable.
2007-01-05 23:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by wanderingphotographer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not being unreasonable tell him your can e-mail every day the now have something that you can use on the computer maybe he don,t know they invented a web com you can use now .he has to live in the 21st century people jest don,t use the phone and write letters now. dosen,t he know the best things in life are worth the wait.
2007-01-05 23:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to wait for 5 months then he's not the one. % months is not long term. If he can't do it for that short of a period of time, what would make you think he could make a life long commitment?
2007-01-05 23:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Smarty Pants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go overseas and do your own thing. If he really liked you and was interested he will wait for you. I know someone who went overseas and her man waited for her for a year. Now they are married. He really liked her and was more than willing to wait a year for her. If he really likes you he will respect your decision, let you do your thing and be there for you when you get back. Also, if you don't go, you will regret giving up such a good opportunity for a guy who, in my opinion, doesn't seem worth it.
2007-01-05 23:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by Diana K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His answer is a cop-out. If he really meant it, he would have no problem waiting less than half a year. He's most like not interested in continuing the relationship.
2007-01-05 23:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jordan M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, if its meant to be, perhaps your paths will cross. If he can see you two long term (and means it) he will wait while you go abroad on to some thing else.
2007-01-05 23:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by Just Ang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋