why are men so scared to tell women how they really feel? they wait untill it is to late , like im in a relationship with a man that i love heart an soul! an this guy i use to see calls me out of the blue an tells me he is in love with me an that the last time we spoke he was going to ask me to move in with him , now im taken im not wanting to leave my bf for him i just want to know why men dont let women know how they really feel ....but i guess everything works out for the best in the end if he would have told me that i would of never meet my bf
2007-01-05 15:44:14 · 24 answers · asked by " Dixieland Delight " 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They do not want to open themselves up. Opening up leaves the door open to be hurt.
2007-01-05 15:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't some kind of doll waiting up on a shelf, gathering dust, until someone comes by to dust and shine you up. The man from your past should have spoken sooner, if you meant that much to him. Be careful. Make sure that he isn't making such declarations out of the blue, because of some personal crisis or a fear of loneliness. It's risky and you could hurt an innocent person like your current boyfriend.
2007-01-05 15:49:08 · answer #2 · answered by montrealissima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the old bf to get lost... He heard that you are happy and now he has found it a challenge to ruin your life... He is still the same guy who will love you for awhile then leave when he thinks he has ruined your life... So change your number or let the bf you have now answer the phone... you have no reason to be talking to the old bf... So don't...
2007-01-05 15:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every guy isn't the same, but that doesn't mean that we all don't have similar feelings. With some people, they are more confident with their feelings & know how to express themselves.
I've been in this situation as well. I never really knew how to express myself, so a relationship that had potential to be more never was, due to me being hesitant. Now girls can be the same way too...
2007-01-05 15:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by thetikigod1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was that man. Not all men are like that.
I've experience that as a man, the more open I am with a woman,the more of a gentleman I am, the less interest she shows me. If I withhold my feelings from the woman and I treat her with less respect, the more interest I get from her.
read James D above.I think , deep down women like to be treated rough.
If you are sweet to them and help around the house they see you as a wimp.
2007-01-05 15:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection
2007-01-05 15:47:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the "man mysteries" of the universe would unravel a bit if you went to an ENGLISH class. It is possible that the things you think are happening are really just a misunderstanding because the other people involved speak ENGLISH and you apparently speak and write in a language that is similar, but certainly not ENGLISH.
2007-01-05 15:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by DrRocco 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He was probably hammered. I'm not kidding. Most guys don't say anything until they've had a couple to drink, then whatever they say goes. Guys while sober don't say what they feel because it will get them slapped and/or disrespected. So they get drunk and say what they want, that way if what they say is unacceptable, they can blame it on the booze
2007-01-05 15:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Choose your nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are soo scared to tell women how they feel, b/c as soon as we do and we open up to you, women ussually think we are crazy. Men are looked to as to be the one who is strong, not easily affected by things that change around them. When we open up and you realize that we have just as many problems and dwell on them just as much as women...women ussually freak out and don't like them anymore. Its a lot easier for us to keep our mouths shut and enjoy the friendships we have, because if we tell you how we feel the chances that a friendship is gone increases about 85%.
2007-01-05 15:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by James D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men always want you "more" when another man wants you and that goes double if another man actually "have" you.
Disregard him, the man for you will not wait until you are in another man's arms to confess love, he wouldn't be able to take that risk. Good luck with your current boyfriend.
2007-01-05 15:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys have a hard time making up their mind, but when they do it's done for good. too bad for him you're taken now.
also, sometimes guys call out of the blue because they miss the bod and want a bootie call. sad but true.
2007-01-05 15:50:41 · answer #11 · answered by schneb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋