Well.. recently my older sister broke up with her long time boyfriend..(three years) everyone in my household was kind of sad. they were attached.. u could say dat. It seems now awkward to talk to my sister. what should i say.. and wat should i not bring up
2007-01-05 15:38:51 · 8 answers · asked by temari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you want to comfort, give her what she needs. A shoulder to cry on if she needs it, someone to laugh with if she needs it, take her somewhere to get her mind off it. Basically, try to read her & see what she needs. More than likely, if you're there for her you'll know what to do.
2007-01-05 15:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by California Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister has needs in this situation ...and because you are her sister you also have needs, the need to comfort her. I feel that it is better to do something (like just ask her...) than to do absolutely nothing when she is hurting. Just be yourself. If she detects your sincere interest and responds to you positively then "great" ...and its okay (for now) if she doesn't. If she doesn't respond then at least you tryed "and she will know it" ...that you care. Waiting for her to say something to you and your family is also good especially if she is going about her normal daily routines, as a rule she will recover in time and she will do it better because you and your family members have given her a comfort zone in which to fall...a safe and warm place for her to regroup her thoughts and new direction(s). You are a special person. Bless your sister and bless you in your efforts to help her. Helping someone can never be wrong. Her healing will be quick because of your love and compassion. As soon as you can get her; "up", "out", "and about" just so the two of you can go do something fun together... the better it will be!
2007-01-05 16:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your sister some time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Let her know that if she wants to talk about it, you'll be happy to listen and do what you can to help. But don't push the topic.
If you want to communicate with her, but not bring up the boyfriend, talk about your day or movies you'd like to see. Ask her about her day and how her friends are doing. I'm sure there are plenty non-boy topics you two share. Offer to rent non-romantic movies and hang out with her.
If she's really depressed and won't communicate, just check in with her occasionally. Let her know you're there, you're concerned, but don't press the issue. If you're worried she might harm herself, get support from your parents to get her into therapy.
Breakups are normal. Given enough time and space, she should be fine.
2007-01-05 15:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by kjcedits 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the subject is obviously sensitive, I would just let your sister know you are there for her and you are there for her to talk to when she is ready. All things happen for a reason. You may never know the real one!
2007-01-05 15:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by jacksonblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do bring it up, she needs to talk, and to hwo beter than a nice guy like you/?
2007-01-05 15:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself with her; too many people are already watching every word they say.
2007-01-05 15:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know you still love her, and help her to move on.
2007-01-05 15:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by cheery_ohz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her.
Good luck to you and yours.
2007-01-05 15:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋