My relationship started out with lies. He would never invite me to his house although he said that he lived alone. He claimed that his home was too dirty. About a month after we started dating, I received a phone call from his live in girlfriend. I confronted him about it and he confessed to living with her but not being happy. He told me that she uses drugs and alcohol and because he is a recovering alcoholic/addict, the relationship was very unhealthy for him to be in. I had empathy for him, and allowed him to move in with me only because I had recently been in a similar situation. I too am a recovering addict and my x boyfriend was using drugs. Once he moved in, all was good for a while until one day he lost his temper when I accidently cut his fingernail too close. It scared me. Now, noticing all the little things, I notice that he is very lazy. He won't water the grass, he can't wash clothes, and he won't help out around the house. What should I do?
2007-01-05 15:36:55 · 16 answers · asked by Asknushallreceive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you think you should do? Are you happy with the situation? If it were me, I'd tell him that I don't feel things are working out, that I'd like him to look for another place to live now. There is also no way I would be doing his laundry, cutting his fingernails, or doing anything for him that wouldn't benefit me. If you fear his reaction, make sure your parents, friends or someone knows what you're going to do.
2007-01-05 15:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!! If you were in a situation like that also then it is not good for you to be around that either. If he started out lying he will keep on. Find some way to get him out of your house or either you move and stay away. Would you date someone while you lived with someone else? That tells you right there that he would cheat. If he would do it to her he would do it to you. You don't get to cheat if you are unhappy, you end the current relationship and then move on. You can do lots better. He is showing you how he is and you don't wnat to believe it. Believe it and let this one go!
2007-01-05 15:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by healergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is slavageable as long as it just started with a lie. Relationships lie on two major traits. Trust and honesty. They support the relationship all the way. You have to decide if you still want to be in this relationship. J. I. Packer said "We live in the future but not the past, but we never forget the past as it will always haunt us so as not to fall into repetition." Whats done is done but now its time to move on and if you really love her, love covers a multitude of sins and you will always be forgiven for what you did so long as there is a heartfelt repentance for lieing. Cheers mate God bless
2016-05-22 21:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this doesn't sound like a relationship that is going to work out. I never like telling someone that but maybe you are ready but need someone else to tell you that. You should think about what will happen in time and then make a decision. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-05 15:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did your part getting him out of an unhealthy relationship. The rest was up to him and he blew it. He doesn't seem nearly good enough for you, but if you want to give him a second chance, talk to him and give him a couple days to pick his lazy *** up.
2007-01-05 15:40:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a relationship built on lies is only going to crumble.regardless of his prior situation hes was not upfront which only goes to speak of his moral character.many people suffer from different substance abuse but it does not mean you have to be part of the addiction .you need to be strong for you and you alone believe stand strong and tall and carry your head high.
2007-01-05 15:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him, truth got to come out sooner or lata, he might be under alot of stress, ask him why? he his bein lazy nd other stuff, he might come out wit stuff you didntg knoe bout him, get to a conversation, take time 2 listen 2 his problem
2007-01-05 15:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by personaltiyqueen92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! Any relationship that begins with lies, will end with more lies!
2007-01-05 15:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. You don't want this kind of relationship to last forever, do you? Just end it now.
2007-01-05 15:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him in the trash
2007-01-05 15:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Badmanfor3v3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋