Receive stronger feelings from your boyfriend?

Question

My boyfriend likes me (ofcourse), but is not very emotional and does not let out his feelings at all really. He is very nice and respectful but how do I get him to open up? Or how do I get him to develop better, or rather, STRONGER feelings for me. Sure, he does like me. He's a genuine guy. But I am really starting to like him. I feel like I say the wrong things to him - especially lately. (ie myself being a tad nervous).

So basically, my question is how do I get him to open up more? I don't want him to get bored with me. I want to be the lady in his life that he brags about to his friends. I want him to like me so much. He does like me. But I would like some help to develop that.


Thankyou in advance!

also note, we are not very intimate - at all actually - he is a little shy. Perhaps when we get more intimate, he'll develop stronger feelings?

also note, I have spoken to him about the intimacy issue. we are working on it, and It's being fixed :)

Answer 1

share something personal then ask him what he thinks of it and ask him a question relating to the one you shared about. being intimate will work also to get closer to him at a personal level..
but then some guys are not really comfortable telling other people personal stuffs about themselves.. i highly suggest that you should open up first then..he will follow. it will take sometime for him to trust you with his secrets but it will be worth it.

Answer 2

It may take some time.. But know him for some time. Slowly u can tell him wht u feel.u said he is a shy guy..It may take some time to open....And u are the best..Coz u are thinking about him so that u can make him happy..All the best.. BE commited

Answer 3

You say that you "....want to be the lady in his life that he brags about to his friends. I want him to like me so much."

Here's a big hint - QUIT PESTERING HIM ABOUT HIS FEELINGS!

Men are raised from infancy to supress our feelings - most of us were raised to believe that there are only two acceptable male emotions, lust and rage.

Expressing any other emotions is sissified, effeminate and gay.

Women, by contrast, are raised from infancy to be overly emotional, and to leak out every emotion and feeling (except for anger and lust, which are unladylike)

Your boyfriend is a man.

Yet you are expecting him to act like a woman.

This is dangerously unrealistic - and really unfair.

I'm sure he shows you he loves you in the only way he knows how - he does nice things for you, spends money on you, takes you nice places, goes out of his way to help you and he never dates other women.

That's how men show love!!

Yes, it's way different than how women express themselves.

Here's a suggestion - accept your man THE WAY HE IS RIGHT NOW!!!!

Don't expect him to become all feminine and girly about how he expresses himself!! Accept him and love him as a man!!!!

Remember, there are no right ways to express feelings!!!

He has his way

And you have yours

And YOUR WAY IS NOT BETTER THAN HIS - it's just different.

Your way of being overemotional and overly analitic about feelings is the classic stereotypical femine way of dealing with feelings.

His way of supressing expressing his feelings is the classic stereotypical masculine way of dealing with feelings.

So, quit bugging your man to become overly emotional, and accept him as the man he is.

If you don't he just might get sick of you and dump you for a woman who's smart enough to know that you have to love a man for WHO HE IS, not for WHO YOU WANT HIM TO BE!!!!