A year and a half away. Why am I so upset?

Question

Hey y'all. I'm feeling depressed and am looking for sympathy or a slap in the face, either will do.
I'm in highschool, and was talking about University with my boyfriend, and realized that he's probably off to a University in the US. I'm more likely to stay here. (Not the US)

We're exceptionally close, but... I have a feeling that we won't last the ten years while both of us get our degrees.

I don't understand why I cry everytime I think of the end of G12. It's also exponentially worse now that I'm looking at universities myself.

What do you think the chances are that a relationship will last that long with little to no /real/ seeing each other?

Note: He's shy, the basic nerd and kind of reclusive, also incredibly loyal.

Answer 1

I know how you're feeling, honey. My boyfriend and I are going to college together in New York State, but after next semester he is taking an internship that will probably lead to a job offer in Florida. I can't think of many things that are scarier than the end of this semester. My guy is the shy nerdy type too, and I can't help but worry about him being all that way away from me and his family all on his own. You and I both have to trust the men we are with to be loyal and trust ourselves to be the same. If you two are truly meant to be together, you will find a way to make it work. A lot can change in a year and a half, too. Your boyfriend may decide to saty put in the country where you are to get at least his preliminary schooling, or you may find a great opportunity to go to school for exactly what you want to in the States. Cherish the time that you two have together, and remember there are ALWAYS ways that you can stay close. Get micraphones and web cams, send video emails, make a committment to talk as often as you can, do anything you can think of that will help. One more story: A friend of mine fell in love with a German guy who was studying at our college over a year ago. He went back to Germany after one semester, but they still talk often, and she went to Germany to stay with him over the summer, and he is here during his winter break. They're engaged and plan on getting married as soon as they're done with school. Love can always find a way!

Answer 2

Sweetie you need to spend your right now time in the right now. If it's a year and a half til you get separated, enjoy your time now and deal with that when it comes up. A lot can happen in a year and a half.
Do I think you'll last 10 years apart while you're both getting your degrees?...My question is why would you want to try? Be friends for that 10 years, stay in touch. When you have your degrees if the magic is still there be a couple again, but don't tie yourself romantically to someone you won't see for 10 years.
Think of how much richer that 10 years will be if you are off being an adult and exploring and learning about life, and how much more you'll have to offer each other when you see each other again in 10 years.
You are way too young to be worrying about this, and worrying doesn't resolve anything at all, it just makes you feel sh*tty.
So, be young, enjoy the time you have together now. Worry about separating when it happens, and don't feel like you have to have the same relationship during 10 years apart as you do right now.

Just my opinion...

Answer 3

I lived accross the country (US) during the first year me and my bf were together, the 2nd yr, across the state (big deal in HS), and we are still together after 8 years. It's not about the distance or the 10 year future, if you're meant to be together then you will be. I know it sounds contrite and that I'm probably the exception; but just enjoy you're time together now, when it's real absence really does make the heart grow stronger but when it''s just lust or infatuation it doesn't. It sounds liek you're still young, a lot can happen in the next year and a half and so much can happen in the next 10.

Answer 4

You never end up with High school sweet hearts... and if you do most likely they end up divorces with in 9 years.. think about it how many couples who are married or living together and met in high school are still together or haven't cheated on each other... Right now I can think of none... So you may be heart broken and all but you and this bf need this time apart... the next 4 or 5 years you are going to change so much and he is too and most likely you will not like each other because of the changes... So if you love him let him go and be who he wants to be and if he loves you he will allow you to do the same... Quit thinking about what ifs because most likely it will be you who will meet the perfect young man who has everything in common with you... Thing happen for a reason... Concentrate on your education family and love and all that stuff will come in time...

Answer 5

Will probably last a few months. A couple of years at most. Ten years is too much. Long distance relationships are incredibly hard and you sound like you're only in school.
Chances are you'll meet someone you like more in college. You'll learn more about yourself and find someone more suited to you.

Answer 6

The sad truth is that most high school relationships don't work out anyways. If it is meant to be, it will be. But in the meantime, you may even find someone else in college & forget all about him. Trust me, it could happen. But if you will be apart for 10 years, chances are, it won't work out. I'm sorry.

Answer 7

I give it 8 months, tops. Sorry to be blunt, but it's just too hard. You'll both meet other interesting people and wonder if it's worth keeping up a long distance relationship.

Answer 8

Am sorry to say this girl but 10 years apart is a hell of a long time do you really think u can wait that long faithfully. Cause if you can't then let him know how it is.

Answer 9

Try not to think about it. Carpe diem, ya know? Just think how much closer you'll be by then if you've already got a strong relationship. If you both really want it to work, you'll find a way.

Answer 10

If you guys really love each other than you don't have to worry. and you said it yourself that he's incredibly loyal right? why don't you just trust him and enjoy the time your have together now and stop wasting time crying and scaring yourself. Theres phones and emails and msn.

good luck!