My daughter doesn't want to hug or kiss us as often as she wanted to in her younger months. She is 19 months old and If I ask her for a kiss.. she'll turn her head and make a no kind of expression... I don't ever force her to give hugs and kisses... but it is different from how she was 3-4 months ago.
By the way, nothing drastic has changed in our home so why is she doing this? and what can I do to get more hugs and kisses from her if there is a way other than just waiting for her to hug or kiss me... sigh... :)
2007-01-05 15:26:14 · 12 answers · asked by A W 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She is beginning to test her autonomy. She now has realized that she has the power to say "no". This is a typical response... you are asking for something, and she will say "no". Not necessarily because she doesn't want to give you a kiss or hug, but because you asked, and she has the power of veto. Make it a game... say something silly like, "Don't you give Mommy a hug! Mommy doesn't want any hugs!" in an overly exaggerated way. Then, when she comes to give you those "icky" hugs, pretend not to want them and say, "Eeewww! I don't want a hug!" Toddlers think this is hilarious, and they get to defy you for once without reprimand- plus, you get your hug! I do this with my two year old all the time, and it works great! Talking in the reverse of what you want works wonders at bedtime too... "Don't you get under those covers! I don't want you to tell Mommy goodnight! Don't close your eyes!" Before you know it- she's in bed with the covers up and has her eyes closed... all with a smile on her face!!
2007-01-06 09:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's just trying to flex her muscles, show she can be in charge of something...at 19 months she is about old enough to be exploring the word and power of no. Some kids turn from food or a toy, but turning from kisses and hugs is just the same. It IS a phase, so try to put up with it. Understand her no's, so she'll understand yours....even if she doesnt say the word.
P.S this is kinda early for this stage, so she'll likely be an earlier bloomer and a more "I can do it myself!" 3 year old. Just a possible heads up!!
2007-01-05 15:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by Cloudyheartgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be able to give your daughter some hugs and kisses, just try sneaking them in there while the two of you are playing. Make it a game! After you get the kiss or small quick hug in look at her and say, "HA! I got ya!!" then give her a lil' tickle. It will help speed her out of this phase and soon she'll be her lovable self while you in return get the kisses and hugs your missing!
2007-01-05 18:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 1/2 year old does the exact same thing. He turns the cheek when we say "give me a kiss" The only way we really get one on the lips is if he wants something. He wants cheetos from the store...."give me a kiss" and he does. Hes at home in a good mood, "give me a kiss" and there is the cheek. I think it is just a stage.
2007-01-05 16:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by next PO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes kids go through a seperation phase when there about your kids age. Its supposed to be part of the terrible two's, but it sounds like your little one is getting it sooner. They just want to be there own people. Don't let it upset you. The hugs and kisses come back, after you earn them. Just wait till she's a teen! Then you'll have to beg for a hug!
2007-01-05 15:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's part of the many phases that children go through.. You are doing the right thing by not forcing her be affectionate, she will come around again don't worry. My son's have both done the same thing to us. they are 15 months and 4 years, my 4 year old went through that phase for a few months, now he is a hugging and kissing machine.. LOL She will come around, I know it hurts, but trust me, your doing the right thing, so she will come around on her own.
2007-01-05 15:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh I so went through this when my daughter was around that age and a little older too. Its independence kicking in and a little rebelliousness. And it is going to pass, as long as you don't stop attampting to show her love and affection she will come back around. I know it hurts and you feel like she is pulling away but its only a phase. My daughter is now almost three and she is all hugs and kisses again. It comes and goes.
2007-01-05 15:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there are other things like loss of language or language delay, this is a natural thing for some children to go through. My son is autistic and he loved and hugged and then suddenly he stopped, but he had also lost some of his words and was becoming with drawn, this does not sound like your child so your child is probably just going through a fase so just continue to offer and give her her space if she does not want it.
2007-01-06 17:28:06 · answer #8 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 19 months old and he is the same way. The only person he kisses is his 13 week old brother and our dog.
2007-01-05 15:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, my son will give me kisses sometimes, but not often. I have to pucker my lips and go mwa and he'll kiss me on the cheek or forehead, lol, but he's 16 months old so i'm sure he'll start doing the same thing
2007-01-05 17:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋