ok i've been going out with this boy for 3 years next month.. and he just asked me to marry him. i love him and i do want to spend the rest of my life with him, so i said yes. i really dont want him to be the last person i have sex with though..
so do you guys think it would be ok to have sex with this boy whos been asking me to? just once. and not tell him? then go through with the marriage?
please help!
2007-01-05 15:17:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know a lot of people feel how you feel but just think your so lucky you have a man who cares about you who wants to marry you. is sex really that important? and you still have him to have sex with so it's not like you'll be giving it up all together. but that would obviously be cheating on him and he won't wanna marry you i'm guessing if he finds out you did that. or maybe he will but you don't wanna chance it. it's unfaithful. I would give anything to have a guy who cares about me like you do. don't screw it up. just tell him how he feels about knowing that you'll be the last woman he'll ever sleep with you know just talk about it with him.
2007-01-05 15:32:30 · answer #1 · answered by model_for_christ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why marriages don't last!!!! If this is not the last person you want have sex with then you are not ready to get married. It would be morally wrong even though you are not married yet to have sex with someone else and not tell him about it. It is not fair to him nor is it fair to you cause you will have something to hide. In the long run will only cause problems. Who's to say you do it once you won't do it again? Maybe you should be more truthful to your self before getting someone else involved in your life.
2007-01-05 23:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by angie.shrout@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him, so dont hurt him. you already said yes in want to marry him. on the other hand your mind want to have sex with other men? if you are seriously love him and want to be with him for the rest of your life = marriage, he will be the last man you will be having sex with.
2007-01-05 23:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by Janep 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a definite no. what if the other boy finds out or worse, u get pregnant. no, u'll get into a tangled web and u'll really regret it later. im serious do not do it. because when u go on with the marriage u'll have this guilt feeling so just dump that boy. all he wants is to take advantage of u by asking u to have sex with u.
2007-01-05 23:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by Alaska 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he asked u to marry him and u said yes then u should make sure he is the last person u have sex with or in the long run u will regret it
2007-01-05 23:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know as a guy...if I was the guy getting married Id be pissed if I found out on the other hand I wouldnt think twice if you were to ask me to have sex and I knew you would be getting married. :P
2007-01-05 23:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by h4rmony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably regret it if you do... it won't be as exciting as you think. It will actually be even more satisfying to you knowing that he's the only one for you. I've only had sex with one person, and we're getting married soon, too... but good luck with whatever you choose...
2007-01-05 23:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him! Don't break his heart!
2007-01-05 23:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tleek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cheat on my bf all the time and we have kids.
do it.
2007-01-05 23:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ginger C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋