Please look, this is really hurting me, does she like me?

Question

so, me and this girl have been friends for this past year, and have become
really good friends in the past few months.

shes dating one of my good friends, who (selfish as thsi may seem) has about the
same qualities as me, except is quiet and,err, not brave you might say.

heres a list of things shes done to make me believe she likes me.

1. on new years she invited me to her house BEFORE her boyfriend.

2. she often looks at me from across a room/hall

3. shes very open to me, she will litery tell me everything, alot of which she
doesnt tell her bf.

4. shes always flirty with me.

5. she'll beg me to sit w/ her at lunch, but if her bf doesnt, she wont beg him.

6. i can often tell that she tries hard to start conversations with me.

7. hits and draws on me haha, stereotypical girl thing eh?

8. always moves very close to me when im around her.

9. calls me, not her bf, when she got drunk, and at night until 3 or so.


ALSO, about 3 weeks ago she said that she had a little bit of feelings for
me...she never once to talk about it again, according to her friends.

Now, this may sound like an overdramatic 13 year old shnick, but its not, this
is much more sincere, this isnt based on looks and then the rare awkward
conversation about how lame our parents are haha, we have genuine conversations
and we have soo much fun around each other.

Its breaking me apart, all those things point to that she likes me, but its not
enough for some reason, I see her say one thing to her bf and it all just fades
away, and i break apart.

Im not going to cheat with her at all, I just want to know if she likes me and
how to handle my emotions right now. He goes over to her house like 4 times or
more a week, and when i hear about it i totally just get uber depressed

shes not a cheater or attention seeker, it so hard to explain, but its so much more sincere.

Answer 1

Ok, honestly I really think she is a cheater. Cheaters always cheaters unless they work hard enough to not do it again. Think smart and you'll fell better about yourself and the girls you pick.

Answer 2

I think you need to stop and look at this and what it is doing to you.. You keep analyzing whether this girl likes you or not.. If she really did she would not be with this other guy, would she. She could be one of those women that wants every guy she meets. She probably does like you and wants to see how far she can go with you, before she gets caught, or she could be acting this way to make her boyfriend jealous, you have no idea how their relationship is.. I would let her be, move on and stop confusing yourself analyzing what she might feel about you and so on and so on.. Go out and meet some nice new girl.. there are lots of pretty, nice girls out there that would love to meet a nice guy.. You are young, and if you want, you will meet someone nice that will care for you and only you with all her heart and her heart will belong to you only. Go out and meet someone that does not play mind games. .. do not let anyone play guessing games with you again. You do not need this girl and her guessing games.. If she really loved you, she would have ended with her boyfriend, you do not need this.. You never know, when she sees that you have moved on, if she really cares, she might take action and do something like being honest with her boyfriend and getting out from her relationship with him and come to you. Good Luck.

Answer 3

why dont you ask her if not personally but through a letter what is going on?
the signs you gave are not really enough to say that she feels something greatly for you
i can do that to another man whom i just considered as a friend i can talk hours on the phone about life and its glory with the friend of my boyfriend and not really like him at all,
but of course im not the girl you mentioned, were not the same, but just a perspective on how women think
sometimes we women dont know that we are doing or leaving signs that might be taken the wrong way by men
but she told you she has feelings for you, a little bit of feelings, women change their mind
seems to me youre the one who likes her , then if thats the case confess what you feel.
if you just want assurance that she likes you too , then its just ego, you dont really want her,
get out of that confusing game, and act normal, cause you see your mind might just be misleading you

Answer 4

shes stressed about about making a choice. theres sometn she wants to overcome. on the other side she has feelings for you i know she does. i usd to act similar to her, but for a different story. maybe she sees your emotions and want to make u feel better. id just go along with the flow and see if everything pulls together. maybe itll work out your way. to top it you should tell her how you feel and that you THINK you know what shes doing. tell her when the right time comes. Tip: be calm around her. dont stress or pressure her about it.

Answer 5

there is no doubt that that this girl doesn't like you. You should talk to her because i bet shes just as confused as you are. She probably enjoys being around you and likes being around you but doesn't have the guts to tell her boyfriend because she still likes her boyfriend. Try bringing up things in conversations, sometimes like if your talking on the phone with her, see if she says i love ya before hanging up or try saying it to her.

Answer 6

i can sit here and type that she does or does not like you.. but the only way that you will actually know is if you ask her... believe me from personal experience a person can say and do all the right htings and then end up not actually liking you just wanting to screw with your mind... so no matter if someone on here tells you that yes yes she does like you, you dont know until you ask her

Answer 7

Like is a common word used. What level of likeness does she have towards you. It may just be a simple crush towards you and she loves her boyfriend. She might like you and her boyfriend but likes him more. Ask her how she feels about you and her boyfriend only if you know it will not ruin your friendship between you and them. Go to this website to understand true love.

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Answer 8

look man. girls are very shy. i think she likes you from the time you met. but she was not able to convey her feelings openly although she had done it by the hearts language. you should have responded to it and should have approached her from yous side. i think her present boyfriend has proposed her which you haven't. you should talk to her about this matter openly. she mightbe waiting for your approach.
good luck

Answer 9

Hi...Wow!!! no wonder your confused...!!!???....she sounds like she plays games...and I would steer clear..move on....save yourself the headache and heartache.....You sound like you have your head together....step back and look at the whole picture..Would you be able to trust her???? Trust is the most important...and if you are already Questioning ????...Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

all you have to do is tell her and your friend how you feel about her.so what if your friend does not approve at least at the end of the day you will have yourself a girlfriend.but first ask her yourself does she like you then if she says yes then tell your friend how you feel about her if she says no then just leave it at that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk