OK..my son is 12 and I took him to his yearly check-up today, let me start by saying NORMALLY I love my kids doctor and the reason I love him is because he's old fashioned (not as far as treatments go, but with his "bedside manner), he's down to earth, straight forward, holds nothing back, BUT today I do believe he crossed the line. Like I said, my son is 12, he HATES shot's (who doesn't), he wasn't expecting one because I didn't know he was getting one, or I would have prepared him, so, when the doc. pulls out the needle my son gets teary eyed, he tells him to grow up, sticks him with the needle, my son pulls away, needle comes out, doc says "good, now you get stuck again" When its all said and done, my child is still crying, the doctor tells me, IN FRONT OF HIM, "better go buy him a dress mom, he's acting like a girl" and walks out! I was dumbfounded! I comforted my son, and walked out feeling like i was hit by a truck! What would you do? Help please.
2007-01-05 15:11:46 · 11 answers · asked by irlefw 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
First and foremost, keep huggin' that little boy of yours. My boy is almost 16 and still hates shots so badly that he shakes.
And then, I would find out what changed with the Dr. , then I would write a letter to the Dr's office relating the incident, tell them you will seek another Dr. and maybe send a copy to (the place that handles medical professionals, i can never remember what they are called)
I am sorry you had this unprofessional experience.
2007-01-05 15:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by cheery_ohz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unbelievable!! What is wrong with doctors these days! Did you see what happened to me at the doc office? I wrote abt it. I am sorry for your son and for you that this happened.
There should be an office manager there you can share your concerns with or write a letter to. Or you can even write to the doctor himself.
Please tell your son in some way that the doctor was wrong to say that and that he made a mistake. Even grownups do not like shots. I know people of all ages that don't like shots. Animals especially don't like them.
Hey, maybe the doc felt like a sissy when he was a kid or something and that made him act like that. Who knows? Still, though, it was wrong.
2007-01-05 23:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by kristen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that must be very, very embarassing to your son. You said that you were dumbfounded! But of course! You were hurt because you know that it hurt your son. The doctor is a tactless one, insensitive to the feelings of his patients and family. If that happened to me, I would tell my son to wait for me, then I would rush out to run after that doctor, and would tell him directly that it was not a very nice thing to say; that he must understand that, to most people, taking a shot is not fun at all, and that includes my son! I would also look for another doctor for my son.
2007-01-06 00:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by batchuchi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report this to who ever is in charge. Call the state medical board and tell them. This type of behavior is not accepted anywhere! If I would of been you I would of smacked him across the face! What a horrible man! You and your son both are owed an apology from this doc!
2007-01-05 23:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, speaking as a medical professional, I can certainly say your doctor acted unprofessionally'. In the doctor's defense, however, it may be that your son is a 'challenging patient'. Many doctors (who are human, after all), have difficulties dealing with specific types of patient behavior.
My recommendation: write a letter of complaint to your physician informing him of your intention of switching providers.
2007-01-05 23:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by kit_roamer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that was really unprofessional. I would write him a letter
and start looking for a new doctor.
Also check out this website: http://ratemds.com/index.jsp
You can publish your experiences both positive and negative to inform other prospective patients. Not to mention read reviews and hopefully find another doc.
2007-01-05 23:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the doctor. Tell him how you feel. He'll either apologize or not. If he does, it's a good lesson to your son that thoughtless remarks can hurt people, but you can move past it and continue a relationship. If the doctor doesn't apologize or dismisses your concerns, then you have to decide if it's time to move on.
2007-01-05 23:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if a doctor is telling you your son is a girl maybe you should check your sons pants to make sure
2007-01-06 00:55:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him reprimanded. Find a new doctor.
2007-01-05 23:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know
2007-01-06 00:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋