I'm not ugly. I'm not mean. I just want to, you know, love someone.
2007-01-05 15:05:18 · 7 answers · asked by meh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you guys didn't connect. Don't get so worked up about it, you'll have a long term relationship if you want one.
2007-01-05 15:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. I am going to tell you the real answer. I am 45 years old and assume I am older than you. I'm not that smart, but I know the answer to your question from pure experience, again, I assume you do not have.
In the beginning, you ask an honest question and expect an honest answer. Based upon that answer, you expect to be honest, you make a decision.
The problem is that people do not know what they want, or at least they dont say it forthright. In other words, if you had accepted something unacceptable, and visa versa from him, in the end it would not matter that the answer was wrong or unacceptable because it was not accurate.
I dont know what to tell you except this. The wrong guy might be the wrong guy or the right guy - or the right guy might be the right guy or the wrong guy. You have to wait it out to see. sometimes right is wrong or wrong is right. Thats why the others last 2 years and you dont - you never gave it a chance to find out
They were technically wrong, but in the long run right. You were right, technically, but in the long run wrong.
(I am either right or insane - you tell me)
Does that make any sense?
2007-01-05 15:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like to me maybe your partners are just being scared. Do you talk about marriage or kids after only a few weeks or months of dating if so this may be one cause. If you are trying to change these people that may be another cause, if you get in a relationship with someone you know who they are to begin with. If you try to change them you will just push them farther away. Take my advice don't touch on marriage or kids until your partner begins to talk about it, also don't try to change anyone if you don't like the person they are then don't continue with the relationship. It could be a million and one little things that can make guys scare away from a relationship its sad but its true. If you are really looking for a long term commitment don't let them know that, just be calm and let the relationship flow. Wherever it goes just go with it. Don't get down on yourself about it. Also you might be picking the wrong guys, the partiers obviously aren't going to settle down right away. Try going for different types of people and don't go into a relationship way to fast. Saying I love you after only a month is not a good thing to most guys. It says that you are trying to commit to early and will be to hands on. That is just my 2 cents
good luck
2007-01-05 15:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by TechN9ne#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they are in their 20,s it,s because they are jest looking for the first time and they don,t what to make a mistake because the divorce rate is now that 67% since the last 30 years. so they are trying to be careful, that,s why the good ones don,t last long. they wait till they are 27 and older, but the other guys jest what to get as much sex from different partners, because they think they well not have a much, when they get marryed, and they know it,s wrong to cheat, so the cheat when they are not marryed,i,m a guy and i waited till i was 33years old. so i was one of the good ones. i wish you the best to find one that,s ready,
2007-01-05 15:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the guy thinks you are moving to fast for him and maybe your not but if you say you love him to quickly it pushes him away.
2007-01-05 15:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by obi wan kenobi27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they arent really into you? not to be mean but dont go looking for love, let it come to you. good luck.
2007-01-05 15:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they found the se x unsavory.
2007-01-05 15:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by 2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋