hey hey, have a major problem. Dad died yesterday and I don't know how to deal with this. He had his 5 heart..

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attach. the last 30% he lived a long time until yesterday. Now he is gone. I keep telling me to call my dad and realize that he is no longer there. It is sooo hard to except how would or did you deal with it?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my father right before my 16th b-day to a major heart attack. I recall moments of extreme sadness and then moments of feeling numb... Strange how life just expires one day, isn't it? For me, my father's death was a bitter-sweet event, it was very hard on me but from it I learned I had a strength I never knew lived inside me.

Maybe you could try to picture him in a better place. I don't know how your relationship is with God, but God will see you through this if you turn to him.

Answer 2

First of all, I'm sorry. well my dad had a heart attack but fortunately he didnt die. I work at a nursing home and actually witnessed a heart attack. the person died the next day. One thing you will learn: there is no cure for grief. Nothing will help, except time. I'm sorry but in the end, there isnt anything anyone will say to make you feel better. You should already know he's in heaven watching over you, and if you were close he should always be in your heart. I recommend a great book that explain what happens when someone you care about dies. It made me cry. I think it will help with your loss. Go to the library and get it. "For one more day" by Mitch Album. Nice short book.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. It's very difficult loosing a parent. The first year is always the hardest. First Thanksgiving, first Christmas even first Fathers Day. You will get through this. Not on your own but with the support of your family and friends. When you think of your dad and how unfair it is not having him alive, I want you to pick up that phone and call a friend. God needed another angel.Your dad will live in you forever plus he's in a better place. Your dad is in heaven, with Jesus and all the angels and will live in you forever. Don't be surprised when you dream of your dad either, it's his way of telling you that he loves you and he's looking out for you. That's a peaceful feeling.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for your loss, If you are a religious person, then you know he's in a better place, he has no pain, and one day you will see him again.

If your not a religious person, then the fact that he has no pain is something for which you can be thankful, In the time to come you should focus on those good times you had with your dad. Remember those things you were able to share.

I often think of my dad reading to me when I was a child, those special projects we worked on together. The fact that as I grew older my dad seemed to get smarter, or maybe just that I did.

I'm over 60 now and I can look in a mirror every day and see my father as I age. My hands look like his, those things I remember him telling me, that I thought were wrong but have come to pass.

There will be good days, and bad days, but if you will think of the fun things and often the funny things then the good will outnumber the bad.

Again, I'm sorry for your loss, Hang in there.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss... I was 26 when my dad died and it took me over 10 years before I could even talk about it without crying... it is hard.... Do you believe in God? Did your dad? If so I believe he is in heaven...which is a much better place to be. But I know that don't help much...it still hurts deeply. You didn't say how old you are? Not that it matters much...the pain does not know age.
Find someone to talk to or to just sit with.

My dad was 56 when he died of his heart attack... you just have to go on. Do the best you can

Answer 6

My dad passed away a little over 4 years ago. It wasn't unexpected. We knew he was going to pass away, just not when. He had ALS. So I was a little prepared for how it was going to end. My advice for you would be to occupy yourself, spending time with friends and family. But make sure you have time to think about his death. Let your feelings out. Tell someone how you feel. Bottling it up inside definately won't help. Remember your dad. Talk about funny or moving stories about him with your family and/or friends. It gives you a little comfort and helps you remember. It's not easy losing such a close loved one. You will always miss him, but everyday you will feel a little better. You will get used to the fact that he is not there... well in body, but he will always be with you.
I'll tell you how i dealt with it. Pretty much how i explained above.
The morning he passed away he was at my grandmas. We got the dreaded phone call. The family got together etcetc.
But everyone was crying. Although it was important to be there for eachother, it just made me more upset. That night I called my friend. I knew that she could chear me up. I spent the night at her house. We watched a movie, and acted normal. Before we went to bed we talked about my dad. I cried a little, but I also laughed. Because I thought of memmories, and we cracked some jokes. At the visitations, I had my share of streaming tears. But I walked up to the open casket, looked at my dad and smiled. I accepted it, and I was glad that his pain was over, and I was proud of him.. for everything. It's hard to except, but with time it won;t be so hard. I hope you will feel better. <3

Answer 7

I do not know how old you are, but when someone dies you have to go through the grieving process. It takes a minimum of one year to go through all of the phrases.

Slow down, breath slowly, slip on water, cry, laugh, sleep, walk, talk, do whatever it takes for you to deal with his death.

Whenever you feel like you are getting depress, think of something that he did or said that made you laugh. Hold on to the happy remember that you had with your father.

I will add your family to my prayer list, hold on, hold on, and God will see you through.

Answer 8

hi there so so sorry for your lose listen if u can not deal with this alone u must have family and friends that can help u deal with your lose. if not speak to your medical doctor they can help go to a church are u married or are a teen just get help don't do this alone sleep over a Friends house if u live alone if u live with your mother she needs your support have brother's and sister's they too need u as u need them . god bless

Answer 9

HATE TO TELL YA THIS BUT ITS NOT GONNA BE EASY FOR A LONG TIME. MY DAD DIED 4 YEARS AGO OF A HEART ATTACK. HE WAS REALLY YOUNG AND STILL BOTHERS ME TO THIS DAY. WHEN SOMEONE YA LOVE LEAVES YA UNEXPECTANTLY IT TAKE FOREVER IF AT ALL FOR THE PAIN TO GO AWAY. BEST THING RIGHT NOW STICK WITH YOU FAMILY AND SUPPORT EACH OTHER IS GONNA BE A LONG WEEK WITH FUNERAL PREPRATIONS AND ALL. I FEEL YOUR PAIN I REALLY DO. I BEEN THERE NOTHIN SUCKS WORSE THAN LOSING YOUR DAD. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. IM SO SORRY.

Answer 10

i am so so sorry. oh wow. just keep your chin up. remember him for the good person he was. remember all the things you did together. don't be afraid to talk to him. he's there, he can here you. i promise. i'm not tryin to be a spiritual person. i just know from personal experiance that hes there. smile. enjoy the little things in life. make a shoebox of some of your fav. pics and of things that remind you of him and look through them when your sad. it never gets old to look through that stuff..good luck and i'm so sorry

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