my father in laws told us that he has the right to know every single things my husband and i do in our bedroom...he wants us to follow his advise about our 'bedroom activity' and we MUST tell him everything.do we have a choice here or there's something wrong with my father in law.my husband and i try to ignore him but he became more persistance..we caught him once red handed searching in our bedroom..he pretends it is normal for parents to know about their children sex life..is that true?
2007-01-05 14:42:45 · 7 answers · asked by polaris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your father-in-law is a sick pervert who needs help, either in the form of counseling, or the threat of being reported to the police for sexually harassing you.
His behavior is not normal. He is playing out some sick fantasy. NO parent wants to invade the privacy of what their children do with their spouse, that is NOT NORMAL nor is it acceptable.
If you attend a chruch, seek out advice with your pastor/minister etc.
Otherwide contact a sexual abuse hotline and seek some advice from a professional. You are not being sexually abused, but you need help on how to deal with someone who clearly has a sexual disorder.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 14:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Gabzilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hint your husband is yours and this si private he is an ignorant old man whos nosy adn get out of there no one has the right to know what all goes in between a wife and husband.. you can go by the old mans rules such as no drugs por parties in the house or come home decent hr and do your share of chores and pay etc but hell man dont be stupid.he is a old pervy man that needs live entertainment the sicko
2007-01-05 23:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um that is in no way true, most parents from what I have seen do not want to hear any specifics whatsoever on what goes on between closed doors. I know that the only parent that will ever talk about that is my girlfriends mom and to me she is just a little bit to open about it. But I do not think that this is right at all, I don't know it kind of seems like he is getting off on the idea of that. And that in itself is REALLY disturbing. Someone needs to have a one on one talk with this guy, maybe not you, but seriously someone.
2007-01-05 22:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by TechN9ne#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a choice.Its not normal to be so wrapped up in your children's private lives.how Does your husband react to this?Is there any possibility of sexual abuse in his childhood?( your husband) i ask because the fathers behavior is like that of a sexual predator, and if I'm right its not going to get better but will escalate . its not unusual in an incestuous relationship for the predator to add members to his harem.If you live with him you must leave. it,s hard to leave family even if they are toxic but if you hope to have any normalcy in your marriage you need to put some space there.
2007-01-05 23:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by matowakan58 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! IT'S NOT NORMAL AND NEITHER IS YOUR FATHER-IN-LAW! Tell him to to go rent a porn vidio, (and yes you do have the right to talk to him anyway you want to, he gave up your respect when he tried to make it his business to be in your bedroom business)
Why hasn't your husband (his son) talked to him about this matter? An done something about it?
2007-01-06 01:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by Oregon_Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. it is not normal, it is not alright! If you guys are living with him, GET OUT! He's a sick man. If and when you have children do not let them alone with him!!!
2007-01-05 22:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by crawl222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
creep
2007-01-05 23:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋