I have a boyfriend whom I love dearly, and treats me really well. We've been together for about 4 months. Well, tonight we were at a bar with a bunch of people and my friend Jason (who is HOT) was kinda drunk and he kissed me. I kissed him back - not sure why. Anyway, it didnt mean anything, but my boyfriend saw!! He's really upset and mad at me! What can I do to make this up to him? I dont want to lose him!!
2007-01-05 14:41:10 · 16 answers · asked by TheSkeptic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever you do DO NOT LIE TO HIM be honest about what happened NO MATTER WHAT. I know he saw what happened and you may not think that lying would be a problem but it is...The first answerer is WRONG if you tell him the kiss did not mean anything then how is he to believe that your feelings are real for him. Explain that at the moment you felt something and returned the kiss. FIRST you must ask yourself why you returned the kiss in front of your boyfriend. Honesty for him and YOURSELF. If you have feelings for this other guy and your boyfriend is a safety net, please be honest about the whole situation.
2007-01-05 14:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you screwed up big time. Be as romantic as possible. This Isn't going to be like in the movies where everything is great and works out in the end. Truth be told in the beginning he won't forgive you but if you love him with all your heart dont give up. It may take a day,a week, a month, a year. However long it takes for your boyfriend to recover you need to be there appologizing, giving, and greving. When he sees how much you truly care and how long you are willing to wait for him he will start to cheer up!
TIPS:
-dont kiss any more boys
-be willing to wait
-remeber that you hurt him badly and he needs to see that you feel bad!
2007-01-05 14:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by morgan a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this may not be what you want to hear, but if you kissed him back, there must be a reason.
Maybe it's time that you sat down and thought about your relationship and how you really feel about your boyfriend. You might also want to sit down and talk with him about it. See if there's anything happening at home that could be the problem.
If you decide that there's nothing wrong, then you're going to have to grovel chica. It will probably take time and a lot of work for him to trust you again.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 14:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by daphnerst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that it meant nothing, that you were drunk and the guy was drunk... but from personal experience, it takes a long time to build trust back up. He has a decent reason not to trust you as much. I would not accept my bf kissing another girl. Give him every reason to trust you from now on and maybe he'll be okay.
I understand what it's like being tempted to even just kiss. You may want to refrain from being vulnerable (drinking) around this guy again... that'd help with the trust issue as well as you not making another mistake.
2007-01-05 14:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by kat 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess honesty is the best. Tell him that you are sorry and that you know you F@(*!% up. You may lose him but just tell him and maybe you shouldn't talk to the other guy. He is feeling like a fool because you kissed some other dude and had the balls to do it in front of others.
2007-01-05 14:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by mtjs06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your b/f hadn't saw you do think it would have been okay to kiss this guy? How would you have felt if it had been your b/f who kissed someone? I don't blame your b/f for being upset with you and if you didn't want to lose him perhaps you should have thought about that before you kissed the other guy. You'll have to work to gain his trust again, that's what you'll have to do to make it up to him.
2007-01-05 14:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by color me blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that Jason kissed you first. Explain to him that the kiss meant nothing to you and that his kisses are all you care about. Tell him that you love him and that you are very sorry. Although I don't understand why you'd kiss him back... Maybe you were caught up in the moment??
2007-01-05 14:44:21 · answer #7 · answered by 143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it was an honest mistake it didnt mean anything. The boy was drunk....make sure that point gets across. Hope it all works out.
2007-01-05 14:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by duke baby! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LIE!!! Tell him that the guy was drunk and he kissed you. It was nothing. Tell him that you love him only. After you say that give him a hug and a big wet one.
2007-01-05 15:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by Tleek 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explain to him that you really screwed up and it didn't mean anything to you. Kiss his butt and shower him with attention that other guys can see.
Guys love it when you stroke their ego in front of other guys.
2007-01-05 14:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋