there is this girl i love her so much i would rather me die than for her to not have a perfict life i am 14 she is 13 she loves me (i think she realy tricked me if so ) well anyways i am realy confused and depressed abotu this she has gotten pregnit we think and it was not me but the guy does not wont anything to do with the kid i love her and with that i love this kid to be i wont to act as a father figur to this kid becouse it is hers and becouse it will make her life better evan if it is ruining mine i dont care i just wont her to have a fighting chance at not having to drop out of school compleatly evan if that means that as soon as the kid is old enuf to not need its mother as much i would drop out of school and take care of the kide and give up my whole futur i need to know if this is the right choce
2007-01-05 14:26:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's see....the girl is 13,I believe it's called rape( Will she press charges on the guy) I would seek counsel with someone you can trust, I dont know if Child Protective Services would become involved is she presses rape charges or not. Sounds like you have a kind heart, but face the real world,you're only 14 and I'm not sure if your can contemplate love versus infatuation. I'm glad you want to help her, but at 14 you cant be "Superman" or even a knight in shining armor to come help save the day. Apparently there is unsureness if sh's even pregnant.Also,it's possible she only wants to "use" you to get back at the other guy-or could be wanting someone to take care of her the rest of her life-but at 14????(look forward to a GED at best with a lifetime of minimum wage jobs-DEFINITLY NOT a life for you esp taking care of potentially 2 other people...Although your heart may be in the right place,you really need a reality check on this situation....Dont get involved in something that can drag you down the rest of your life...please seek help!!
2007-01-05 14:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by KEITH G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IN THE WORLD WERE YOU THINKING????
14 AND 13 IS WAY TOO YOUNG FOR SEX. JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN GET IT UP DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE READY FOR THE RESPONSIBILITY.
WHY ARE YOU HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX WITH SOMEONE WHO IS ACTIVE WITH MORE THAN ONE PARTNER????
It is not the right choice to drop out of school to take care of the baby. You need to continue your education. You will need all the education you can afford so you can have a career.
I would strongly encourage your girlfriend not to drop out either. She needs her education so she too can train for a career.
If your girlfriend decides to carry the child to term she might consider allowing the child to be adopted by ADULTS. A 14 and a 13 yr old do not have the resources, financial or emotional to raise a child. No offense...y'all are just too young to do it right. Despite what the songs say or what the movies show, love is not all you need.
If she decides to keep the child a paternity test should be performed. If it is your child, you need to get an after school job so you can pay your share of the child support.
If you are not smart enough to keep your dick in your pants then go buy some condoms now.
2007-01-05 22:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by krinkn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, at 14 and 13, neither of you have any idea what you're getting yourself into it. The girl needs to either have an abortion or give the child up for adoption. She's 13, for God's sake! Having a baby at such a young age is unhealthy and very, very dangerous. As much as you love her, you can't let her mistakes drag you down as well.
2007-01-05 22:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't. Do you want the same things you wanted today that you wanted when you were 10? when you were 6? As you get older your needs and wants will change. If you throw away your life you will have no options. Work hard, concentrate on school. If in the long run you end up being with her you will have a good job and the money to care for a family.
Be careful with your heart
2007-01-05 22:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't consider dropping out of school because if you stay you can provide a better life for that child.There are other ways that she can get help, she doesn't even have to drop out eighter. Ask your social worker at school if he/she can help you out with your situation.I had a child at a very young age and the social worker at school helped me get daycare so that I didn't have to worry about giving up my studies. I am very thankful because I got the chance to graduate and am now entering college. I hope that everything goes well and I wish you luck but definitely look into having a word with your social worker!
2007-01-05 22:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by hopey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As loyal and wonderful your feelings are, you ar4e both just kids still. I know you probably don't like this kind of thing and you probably feel like I'm patronizing you, but really, as much as you love her, you are clouded by that right now... But when you're 16 and you find yourself having a kid of your own with her and no time for school or friends or time to do what you like best (like a regular teen-ager), you won't feel the same way. I've seen it too many times. Try to help and support your friend. She probably won't keep the baby anyway, and truth is, she's MUCH too young to, anyway. She's a kid herself! Just be there for her, that's the best you can do.
2007-01-05 22:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by veevintage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really sweet, and sincere guy. BUT, listen to this...You are still a baby yourself! Believe it or not, you may love this girl with all of your entire being, but it will fade! I know that it seems like it won't right now because you are in the moment, but I assure you it will. You are too young. She is in a perdicament that she got herself into and you didn't have anything to do with it. She did this herself. How do you know that she would make this type of sacrifice for you if you were in the same situation??? Please rethink your thinking. Right now she just needs to see if she really IS pregnant and then she needs to rely on her parents. If she IS pregnant, she is moody, emotional, etc. BE CAREFUL, she could reel you in so fast you won't even know what hit you. NOT to be mean or malicious towards you, but ONLY because she has to make a future for not only herself, but her new baby too. Life is full of crap and crappy situations, you are too young to start now. Don't be in a hurry to grow up!!! Take care of yourself and think of yourself first!!!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-01-05 22:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by ilovechocolate75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are babies. I know you don't want to hear that. And you will fall out of love with her. It's just the way life is at 14. Don't give so much of yourself to girlfriend at this age. Let her deal with the pregnancy. You can still date her and help her change diapers, etc. but do not invest yourself in being a father.
2007-01-05 22:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by MW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help her better, if you do not ruin your life, stay with her as a friend give her support, but you are not the father or her familly, let her and her family take the decision, you are only her friend and probably in the future whe you finish school College it is probably you and her have changed your minds and be with another people. Remember you a just her friend
2007-01-05 22:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait you are telling me a 13 year old is pregnant? What is this country coming to?
Anyways, I dont think you REALLY love her, you are 14. I say concentrate on school and getting a future, it was her bad decision that ruined her's, there is no need for it to ruin yours too.
Sorry if this may sound harsh.
2007-01-05 22:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by h4rmony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋