Im 34 and an emergency room physician. Born in India but lived in us for 15 years. Im Brahmin and my dad is an oncologist. I dumped my bf ( a white surgeon) because he was boring. Then I picked up a Philippinno guy in a NYC nightclub. He deals crystal meth and cocaine and recently got out of prison after doing 4 years for attempted murder ,he got a job doing data entry for $9.00 /hr. I left my parents house and moved in w him in an apt I rented for us in the South Bronx.( he has no credit) He rented out some of the other rooms in the apt to some people from the street for a few dolars a month. He doesnt own a car so I drive him to his job. I wanted to start using crystal meth and coke and I had to beg him to let me start but finally he did. Believe me he can dance and when we go to clubs we are like THE hottest couple there. He looks like he just walked out of a rap video. I caled my ex and told him I was doing drugs but not addicted/just for fun. He told my parents. Now they hate me.
2007-01-05 14:25:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My parents wont even accept me smoking cigarettes and I smoke a pack a day so they make me do it in my room and blow it out the window. My mom still cries when she sees me smoking and ive been doing it for 10 years. How am i supposed to get her to be cool with my bf?? Now its getting bad cause i told my bf im gonna leave him and he said it was because hes got no job and no money and i prison record!! He also said if i do hell stab me and my parents. I just want to be able to be with him because its the only way i can get my stuff and he gives me all i need for free. Plus he is soooooooooo hot!!!! I know its messed up but i feel this is the ideal life for me. Ive got my dream guy, I feel like a star in the clubs w him cause hes sooooo hot, and i can smoke drink and get high without anyone complaining. How do i get my parents to realize that this is what i want and that i deserve to be able to have it. I feel like my mom is just jealous cause she had an arranged marriage.
2007-01-08 18:46:35 · update #1
well, i know that it is hard to let ur parents be involve or even to let them know that there is another person that is involve in ur life, but u should, cause if anything happens, then u know that ur parents r there for u to talk to!! u just go up to them and tell them that u have a bf, bacause if u love him then u would do anything for him!!!! if times got hard with ur parents, just think about ur bf and the WONDERFUL times u had spent with him!! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-05 14:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt your parents hate you but they may be very disappointed and/or afraid for you. Your ex boyfriend sounds like he is worried for your safety.As an ER physician you must know how dangerous even dabbling in drugs - prescribed or otherwise - can be. I have seen several lives ruined by meth and not just the users but their families as well. Coke is not risk free either. If you are a physician then you are obviously a smart girl, have a serious talk with your parents and listen to their concerns. You will always be their little girl and they want to protect you. They may never accept your boyfriend but they will always love you.
2007-01-05 22:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a 34 year old emergency room physician, what are you doing taking drugs?! What are you doing dating a guy like this? You deserve someone better, and you need to start off by dumping this guy. He's using you, and thats just not right. Stop taking drugs, and just get your life together. You've worked so hard, and now you can lose it all if you get arrested for drugs. No wonder your parents are angry. Once you've dumped this guy and kicked him and all of his friends out, talk to your parents and tell them you're going into rehab. Get counseling, and over time things will be better. Good luck!
2007-01-05 22:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider their point of view. Their intelligent, beautiful daughter is funding a drug dealing ex con with no credit, no job (let's face it, 9 an hour doesn't go very far in the city), no car, and the only thing you are concerned about is that he looks hot and can dance.
How would you feel if you had a daughter who did the same thing?
BTW, quit the drugs. you're an E-room doctor. You need your wits about you to do your job well. It's life or death honey, so get it together.
You also might want to consider why you bragged to your ex. If he's boring, why do you care what he thinks...unless you're really crying for help. Help yourself and lose the loser boyfriend.
2007-01-05 22:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Julie N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear...Indian borns are genarally intellegents than others as we see in news. But why do u beheave so? Ofcourse it is ur life. though u r at 34 years...ur beheaviour looks like teen aged. I really feel for ur betterment. Think practically. Using drugs is not good for health and now u r not addicted..but it would be seriously involved in ur future life.
Have u ever thought why ur parents are hating u? Generally parents give their hard earned money, love everything to their children because, they just love their kids. They kept lot of confidence on u and they blindly beleaved u. But they felt that you have backstabbed their love, relationship.
Life is just not bed of roses. Think again. u called ur ex-b.f. to screw his happiness. God is there and he keeps an eye on everyone.
I Pray God to give u good life.....All the best. Though u live in US..be Indian.
2007-01-06 00:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please!!! stop doing drugs, you being involved in the medical field should know they don't help you, they destroy you!! And i wouldn't be dating someone who deals crystal meths and cocaine and recently got out of jail after doing 4 years for attempted murder!!! what are you thinking! i know i probably sound like your parents but you hafta consider that drugs are dangerous and that dating someone who was in jail for attempted murder, is not the best person to be dealing with. i hope i might have possibly have talked at least some sense into you
~ sara
2007-01-05 22:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indian Brahmin girl physician going after white,yellow ones for dance and drugs. Your parents are right.
2007-01-06 01:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are on the road to screwing your life up in a big way. Your boyfriend sounds like is is using you and taking you for a ride. As a physician you should know the harm that can come from doing drugs...and not just to yourself. YOU HAVE PEOPLES LIVES IN YOUR CARE!!!! SHAME ON YOU!!!
2007-01-05 22:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Starwyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart .. are u sure u wan 2 continue with this person... living in relationship is okay but still not good with this kind of persn.. i am no 1 2 u but still out of no concern i wan u to get out of this.. u are nt able to convince me... forget abt yr parents
2007-01-05 23:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by p_n_senior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your parents and get the opinion from them and tell the speech of your heart
2007-01-05 23:11:20 · answer #10 · answered by Catalyst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋