An email relationship that looked promising, back and forth some days two or more times, but then it hit a real glitch. Over something quite small and stupid, I made a poorly chosen comment that sent her through the roof. It was harmless on my part, playing on associations of a silly jumping emoticon she liked to use, something to the effect, "don't let it jump on you in the night." Welll, you'd think I had personally assaulted her, she was so angry. I wasn't going to answer her, but unfortunately did so with an apology. It was a day or so later. She looked on my apology as if I were crawling on my stomach, then she got mad all over again. To say the least, I'm not writing her any more. It's unfortunate, but she's let a personal issue interfere. I wonder if it doesn't do the same with all the men she meets. It really seemed she wanted to end things between us. What do you think?
2007-01-05 14:15:01 · 21 answers · asked by Nightwriter21 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if this was just email and you've never met in person, I could understand the defenses being up a little bit cause there's no true way to tell if a person is serious or not.
I'd say things are definetly over with that relationship, whether it was a staged or real reaction on her part who knows. just move on and be a little more selective on what or how you say some things.
2007-01-05 14:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about relationships formed on the net are although the relationship may feel very very real....it is almost like a fantasy...as it is a relationship that can be very very intense one minute...but can go away with a simple click of a button...or mouse.....also we tend to get very wrapped up in people, but we only get to see the side of that person that they choose to share with us....and that side may be more deceptive than we want to believe. I have many good friends on the net, and I do enjoy my friendships...but I have learned to keep real about it, as I have learned the hard way, as you must learn as well...one click and that person is not longer accessible, until they choose to resume...or not. It sound like this girl has a side that you don't know, and I suggest that you leave her alone, she may very well decide she misses her contact with you, and try to get back in touch...and it is up to you if you want to go there again with her...but if you do, I would suggest that the two of you talk about what happened, how it made her feel, why she got so bent....and how it made you feel as well. Best of luck....and be careful!
2007-01-05 22:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to say for sure, but maybe she was just getting tired of it or saw it going nowhere and started looking for a way out. Whatever you said and however you apologized made her mad. Seldom does something like that cause a person to break up if they really want the relationship. Good thing you stopped writing. I suspect there was zero chance of it getting anywhere.
2007-01-05 22:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be seen as a blessing. If she acts like this over a small statement then just imagine how it would be in a full blown relationship. Just move on and look at it as a learning experience. People usually put their best foot forward while dating, or getting to know one another. If this was her best foot be glad she cut it off!! LOL
Good luck
2007-01-05 22:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh, the joys of a written relationship!
A purely written relationship can never work! The written word is grotesquely inadequate in transmitting emotion, inflection, and even humor. Written words can often be misunderstood. I would even reference a study but I don't remember where I saw it off the top of my head, but it basically said: If your goal is to unintentionally piss someone off, you want to be writing them!
Humans are still pretty primitive in that matter; personal contact and interaction is still the most effective way of getting to know someone and allowing them to take measure of your personality, humor, intricacies, etc.
Don't take it personally! There are other fish in the sea.
2007-01-05 22:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Marc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can never tell honestly what is up with people thru an internet relationship. I think a person should only get involved with persons they can see in person. That's the only way to be able to tell what they are really about. People can be whatever- whoever they want to be online.
2007-01-05 22:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by C C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that both you are insecure. I dont believe that you can have a relationship with someone that you cant see. I know that a telephone or a computer is a very useful tool to express things that we cant say out loud and in person.
2007-01-05 22:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
e-mail relationships do not have emotion or feeling.
It is flat. They are words. Typing "I love you" is so much easier than looking into someones eyes with their hands in your hands. There is no commitment in words you type. In addtion she could be a state trooper typing love notes not a girl at all. Do you really know what you are getting?
Get a real girl.
2007-01-05 22:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she didn't want to end the relationship, why would you stick around. It seems to me that she has her drawers on a little too tight. If you were to continue, I have the feeling you would always be walking on eggshells. Is that the kind of relationship you want?
2007-01-05 22:18:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go - if she has problems, it is better now, than later!
Relationships over the Internet are always iffy - you never
know who is at the other end.
A personal relationship (real live one) is always better - you can
touch and see what you've got.
Good luck!
2007-01-05 22:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋