I mean..usually one side has one set of feelings and the other side has feelings completley opposite! How do people handle this sort of situation!?? My ex-girlfriend said she wants to still be friends but I don't know how it would work knowing we had a year long relationship??
2007-01-05 14:05:01 · 17 answers · asked by RKO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If a relationship fails, both parties feel hurt to some degree, but usually one is more hurt and feels he or she has the right to feel more hurt, so why should one remain friends with the other who hurt you?Everybody get sad and feel hurt when something like this happens, it's normal.The important thing is that no matter what, what has been cannot be changed, and whatever happens in the next 3-6 months doesn't really matter if we cannot accept the situation, that what happened happened and the relationship is over, it doesn't matter anymore who hurt who, it is about two people, who shared love together, that is when u realize that there is nothing good in hating your ex, or being sad and endulging in this sadness, or feeling betrayed or lyied to or disrespected. Whatever happened between u and her, was not personal. It didn't end because of you.Don't take it personally.It wasn't meant to be that's all.If you can accept it, then you will probably also be able to see that person who you once fell in love with, and you will be able to communicate to her without being angry,sad,hurt, you will be able to appreciate her for the good things that she has given to you.But if you feel that she has nothing to offer you anymore.Then you don't have to be friends.
2007-01-05 14:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Instant Problemsolver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His actions are ones of insecurity and jealousy, and at times could be because of a guilty mind. Do not play to much into it though talk to your current BF and tell him that you understand his jealousy but that he has nothing to fear from your ex. I think its hard to not be friends with my ex's because I shared something special with them, some people are still friends with there first love, 30 - 40 even 50 years later. There is no difference at all between you talking to your ex than him talking to his unless like you said there is more going on there. He needs to understand how you are feeling and the only way that can happen is if you sit down and talk to him and tell him that under no circumstances are you giving up a friend. Friends are forever relationships come and go that's why its best to marry a great friend :)
2016-05-22 21:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be really fake until it starts to be okay again, know what I mean? I would just try to stay chill and not talk about him/her behind their backs. Have a prepared statement memorized for when people ask you about the break up and be sure to mention in that statement that you are just friends. (best friends can know the truth, but be careful, sometimes it's best to just keep the pain and hurt inside). I also would give a lot of space between you and the ex. ONly seeing them when necessary, just to let the awkwardness simmer down.
2007-01-05 14:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The intensity of the "feelings" fades with time. I still talk to my ex-husband, even though we've been divorced for years. There's something to be said for familiarity, for having someone around who've known you for a long time, and understands your feelings. There were reasons why we got married in the first place, a certain compatibility - and even though things may have changed down the road, some of that compatibility remains.
2007-01-05 14:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from each other. It is damn near impossible to break up and be friends right away. It's ridiculous to think you can subtract emotion from a friendship overnight. It ends up in one person's feeling constantly being hurt and someone else wondering why the other is upset all the time.
2007-01-05 14:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it can ever work. I said the same thing to my ex and ended up fighting more than when we were togetheer so I broke all contact. Sometimes it works but in my experience it doesn't.
2007-01-05 14:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might work, it might not. If she's ok with it but you're not, don't worry about it. You've probably got plenty of other friends. Once you've been intimate with someone it's really hard to go back to being "just friends". It can be done but both people have to be ok with it.
2007-01-05 14:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some time it can work and other times not so lucky it's about how mature you are, and how you handle things. The only thing you can do is try it out.
2007-01-05 14:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only possible after you have been long enough away from them to realize that they always kind of sucked. Unless it's a first love...that's a little different.
2007-01-05 14:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prez say stay friend with ex is hard. Prez say it always bother who you date after. Prez say it not worth stay friend with ex. Prez say lots of other people to be friends with. Prez say he friends with his ex and all his new ladies are bothered by that. Prez say it might be better if he not friends with ex. Prez say sometimes he still has feelings for ex. Prez better know!
2007-01-05 14:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋