Take baby steps.
It is understandable you are reluctant to be hurt again.
I think the person you are seeing needs to know that you are emotionally sensitive about being treated a toy or abused (how ever you were abused). If they are a friend - and being a friend is a big part of girl/boy friend they will take it at your speed as you are worth it. If they cannot take it at your speed - then they are selfish and may not be worth seeing.
2007-01-05 14:04:52
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answered by Kerry Z 3
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Don't call your date off. You are just nervous because of the past. Today is a new day. Don't bring your past into your new life. Don't judge it before you experience it. Don't worry before you have anything to worry about. Don't suffer from your past just live for this moment. Remember the signs of an abusive person can be noticed in the beginning. Many times we see the signs and pretend that they are not there. You have been down that road so keep your eyes open to anything that may not be comfortable. Other then that just take your time, don't be afraid and have fun. Give him a chance he hasn't done anything. Give the friendship a chance it deserves you, a growing flower that has be abused and now wants to live again.
2007-01-05 14:10:28
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answered by relationcounseling 2
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Getting back in the dating game can be a nerve racking experience but once you get over that initial awkward stage, you'll be fine ... this is just one date, so go and enjoy yourself. You're getting your feet wet with a date, not taking a big plunge into a full blown relationship. Who knows, maybe you won't even like the person and you're fretting over nothing?
While your past experience is not great, you were strong enough to get through it. You're not the person now that you were then and you can do this! In the realm of dating, take things slowly, get to know the person and learn to judge them for their actions/words as opposed to judging them based on those who came before them. Also, you know now what you will and will not put up with now, so if it turns out someone's an asshole, then it's "bye bye" pretty fast. And remember, everything works out in the end so get out there and have fun.
2007-01-05 14:17:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Sorry to declare this and that i don't anticipate that it is what you opt for to pay attention yet you will possibly desire to pass on because of the indisputable fact that's over.There might desire to be quite a few motives. the main in all probability one is he only replaced his ideas approximately having a relationship with you. It happens, yet did you only anticipate which you 2 have been an merchandise on account which you slept jointly? despite got here approximately he has lost interest and please do not fool your self: any guy, even if busy he's, will detect some mins to telephone/textual content textile or in any different case touch a woman he's rather interested in. He may well be a participant, yet i does not waste my time pining after him.
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answered by ? 4
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Well.. you can call it off... sure... But then, after two more years, when you get another date, you will have another problem... Not having had a date for 4 years.... The more you wait the tougher it will be to start dating again.
Just go and have some fun. And if it all goes bad and you two dont hook up, so what? If you had fun its ok.
Loosen up ;)
Life is really shallow to be drowning in it....
2007-01-05 14:05:49
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answered by kaustikos1981 4
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No, go for it. I can understand how you feel. I was just in a relationship for 5 years. Love of my life(i thought). I've been through thick and thin with him and all of a sudden he became abusive (mentally&phy). But it's been 2 years don't let your past relationship effect your future ones. Because your past might make you miss out on someone who actually loves you or want to give it a try. But you don't have to rush into things. Just go on the date and think of it as ok I'm on a date and I'm going to enjoy myself. And just go with the flow for future references to see what becomes of this relationship. Go out and enjoy yourself. Don't let you past hold you down. Live your life to the fullest. But that don't mean you have to get close (emotionally) if you don't want to. Hey someone wants to take you on a date. You have something they like'!'
2007-01-05 14:11:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Why would you? You haven't dated in 2 years. You have to start at some point. Just be brave and go with the flow. Relax. Just try to learn a lot about him. Be careful on the way home.
2007-01-05 14:03:34
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answered by Dido 4
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Trust that you're experiences have helped you read people better? Make the date in a neutral setting and don't go back to the houses alone if you're still timid about the whole thing.
2007-01-05 14:02:51
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answered by Anonymous
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no dont call it off think of the past as an experiance you dont want to have again, take the hints of the past though and remember it where you might find your self back in the past and if they come up get away straight away. so go out have fun. gl
2007-01-05 14:06:02
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answered by luckydo6 3
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Don't let your past control your future. You should go and have fun and enjoy yourself. : ) Hey! It's only a date, it's not like your getting married.....lol
Take a deep breath..Have a great time! Enjoy!
2007-01-05 14:12:19
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answered by no cutesy name : ) 4
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