i was sexually abused when i was very young...and ive never told anyone...this is the closest that ive ever come to acknowledging it outside of my mind in 18 years. i am terrified to have sex with a man or woman...and it doesnt help matters that i have extremely low self esteem...so the thought of somebody seeing me naked much less touching me naked completely unnerves me. i spent all of my childhood and most of my adult life trying to avoid being touched by anyone.
and suddenly out of nowhere i am having bisexual feelings towards women...and am utterly confused.
2007-01-05 13:59:59 · 4 answers · asked by rippdbombedandwasted 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely time to call on the services of a professional counselor, preferably one that has experience with your type of problem. Believe me, you're not the only person who has ever been in this situation. Try your physician for a referral or a local women's center.
2007-01-06 10:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am no psychologist but in my honest opinion you need to get counseling for that sort of thing. You have all right to feel like do, not wanting to be touched after what you went through however, keeping it bottled up inside might not be the best thing. Your feelings towards women come as no surprise to me, you were abused by a man so its natural to feel more comfortable around women. You may not be bi its just you have a sense of higher comfort around women than you do around men, so your willing to try something with a women. Everyone needs someone your just trying to fill that gap with something but i beg you to not give up on men not all men are dogs some men are actually nice. If you do meet a guy that you are comfortable around tell him about your situation and deal with it from there. My advice however, is to seek a little counseling first before you start labelling yourself as bi, gay or straight.
2007-01-05 14:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by sky2shore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a whole different feelin btwn bein abused and bein with someone u wnna be.
u should let go the past, wts done is done, u cant do anythin about it.
try to go out and find ur self a nice man, who treat well, and show u how great love can be.
being attracted to women, is just like ur defence strategy. u dont really like being with a women, but u think its safer for u which is wrong.
i have no prob with bisexual ppl. but i dont think u r bisexual.
ur options is to find a nice man, and start a new way of living
2007-01-05 14:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk with someone who is qualified. Maybe this is a step in the right direction for you to be able to do that.
2007-01-05 14:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by jdg676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋