is my mom too hard on me?

Question

I'm 18 and I just started college at a private university. I work hard for everything I want. but my mom is always telling me that I'm not working hard enough and that I'll never amount to anything.
I hate that I feel like I'm 12. I have to ask before I leave the house. She'll say I can stay out as late as I want but when I come home she yells at me for coming back "late." I don't understand why she just doesn't let me do my own things, how else am I going to learn? and she's always complaining about how I don't get anything done when I do.
I'm afraid that if I say something she'll just get even more mad. What can I do?

Answer 1

I am a parent of a 17 year old and I tend to stay on his back about something. The reason I do this is because there are so many bad things just waiting for young people. Maybe your mom just wants you to do what is right and she wants you to do it her way. But sometimes that is impossible, because times have changed. Try to sit down with your mother and talk to her, woman to woman. Let her know what your plans are and how you plan to obtain them. Ask her for her input. So many time we want to hold on to our children and the whole fantasy thing about what we want them to be. She may not know any other way of relating to you. But, please do not shut her out. She needs you more than you think.

Answer 2

All mothers do that to their kids lol, it's normal.

Two reasons why she may be doing this ... the first is that you are completely untrustworthy and have made her life such a living he** that she has no choice, either bark at you or lose you.

The second is that she knows you are leaving soon and she doesn't trust herself that she did a good job. It's not really about you, it's about her faith in herself and her parenting skills. She's deeply afraid she's done something wrong and you will wind up with a rifle on top of the tower shooting at people lol.

If the second case is true, give your ole mom a bit of a break. Next time she complains just say "don't worry mom, you raised me right and I'll be fine", give her a kiss and go on about your business :)

Answer 3

Sounds like this is a rough time for you and your mom. Maybe she has fears about letting you go, and maybe she can't believe you're really old enough. There are a few things you might try: 1. Accept the fact that while you live in her house, it's courteous to tell her when you're leaving and what time you'll be back. When you live on your own, you can come and go as you please. 2. Ask her what's going on and how you can help. You could say, "Mom, it seems like you're upset a lot. What can I do to help?" Say it calmly and without accusing her of being hard on you, etc. Maybe she is going through a rough time herself and a little compassion and generosity from you would really help! Good luck and God bless.

Answer 4

parents cant accept d fact that their little angels r no more little n has all grown up.i know it seems hard but u got to talk it out wiht her,politely n calmly..

n abt coming home late,ask her abt ur curfew -if theres any,n then when u come home,come home by that timing,so that u wont hv to get scolding for no reason,n if u r late,call her up n let her know,in this way,the trust btwn d both of u will be there..

im sure ur mom loves u lots,she cares abt u.dont take anything wrongly.btw i know how it feels to be treated like a kid.... ive been through that too..

take care
hope ive helped

Answer 5

shes just overprotective. if you going out and staying out late is more than 3 times a week then that is way too much. as long as you are working decent hours at a decent job and making decent money then you are fine. is she paying for everything? if she is then try paying for you own stuff that you can afford