I'm 17years old and my mom walked out on me, and no one has custidy of me or my 13 year old brother so we live with my grandma but a few months ago i lived with my boyfriend, we love eachother so much but then his parents told me that we shouldn't live together and my dad made me move back home so now my aunt and uncle who dosen't even own me control me, I cleaned alot at my boyfriends house and I didn't mind helping out with bills and stuff i was so happy but when i moved back i got so horribly depressed and i hate it here....i miss my boyfriend so much, and when my aunt and uncle yell at me about how i don't clean or help out i get depressed i really don't understand why i don't do anything i just want to be with jesse so bad. I felt as if I was finally doing something with my life but then I came back home and i feel traped....in a few months jesse is getting an apartment and I'm suposed to move in with him but my aunt and uncle said no because i'm not 18, what would you do?
2007-01-05 13:51:11 · 9 answers · asked by ~*.::.Baby Love.::.*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to child services office in your area, tell them your plight. the problem is that you are still a minor. When your boyfriend moves out and you think you can move in with him, technically you can pack your things and take off. but your aunt and uncle can file a missing person report and your boyfriend may end up on charges of statutory rape, and a criminal record.
My advice is this. Wait till you are 18. See your boyfriend whenever you can. be VERY NICE to your aunt and uncle, they are the ones taking care of you and your brother right now. You will be 18 soon enough and then you are free. And save as much money as you can.
be brave. good luck
2007-01-05 13:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't finished school... you need too... then go to College and become someone who can provide for herself... take out loans and live on campus... You sound like you are desprate and just leaving a bad situation and falling into another... Your education is the most important thing.. and you have to realize that life doesn't get easier and living with boyfriends and taking the chance of getting pregnant is not thinking what is best for you and the family that you may have later on... Concentrait on your education... from the sound of it you could possibly have it all paid for by the government... I know four years of College seems like a life time but beleive me that little peice of paper called a degree will make all the differance when you are 23 and 24 years old... the oppertunty is out there waiting for you to grab hold of it and become really free to do what you want to do and go where you want to go... Life is to short to have to live hand to mouth. Yep education is the way to go... forget the boyfriend... True love will come when you have followed the right road and your not so desprate that you fall into welfare...
Oh by the way I do know a guy who was living with his grandparents and now he is going to College and it is all paid for because of that situation... So really think about your education.. You have excess to a computer so use it and really look into colleges across the country... make goals for yourself then acomplish them..
2007-01-05 14:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to a counselor? Through your school is this help available to you? Please don't make the mistake of thinking that your boyfriend is your solution to all the hurt you must feel about your mother abandoning you. I am so sorry this happened to you -- it must be so painful. 17 is really too young to live with a boyfriend -- you haven't had a chance to mature yet and have a life of your own before pretending to have a spouse. Give it time. I'm sure your boyfriend is very important to you but you need to have a normal relationship with him, not live with him. I can't believe his parents would allow this -- what were they thinking? Try to get some professional help -- someone you can talk to about your feelings, sort them out, prioritize what you want to do and what you want to make of your life. Let me guess: did your mom walk out on you for a man? Don't follow her pattern. Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-05 13:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see the Child Protective Service in your area. You may be considered an emancipated minor, but I am not sure of the laws of your state. However, your yourger brother is another matter. Where is he? I am concerned about the safety and welfare of both of you. It seems that both of you are pitched around and this is not good for anyone involved. You need to go and speak with either someone in law enforcement that you trust or a minister, preacher, teacher, counselor, again that you trust and get the authorities involved. Adults cannot just leave their children with whoever and walk away without repercussions. My heart goes out to you and your little brother. Please go to someone that you trust and get assistance. Perhaps even your boyfriends parents....you and your brother need assistance very urgently before something awful happens. Please, please get help!!! God be with you and your brother!!
2007-01-05 13:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long until you turn 18? i say move in with your boyfriend if thats what makes you truly happy. but you have to think about it. you are young so the chance is bigger that you will break up. if you do where would you go? and the bills pile up fast. are you sure that your bills will be covered? its alot harder than it sounds in the long run.
2007-01-05 13:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just hang in there till your 18, then you'll be completely free to go where ever you want. That less than a year you'll make it.
till that time, just try to keep a low profile around your family and do what ever you can to help out. working on getting closer to your dad may help you out a little to.
2007-01-05 13:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a social worker, normally 18 is the age to make your own way but I don't think it's set in concrete.
2007-01-05 13:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you move in think about where would you go if y'all should happen to break up your aunt and uncle may not let you back if you dont listen to them
2007-01-05 13:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until I'm 18.....maybe in the meantime you can try to get a healthy relationship with your father.
2007-01-05 13:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋