well i am 16 years old & pregnant with my first child and due Feb. 11th, but the father of my baby is 21 years old and we are banned by court to see eachother until im at the age of 18. Me and him have been thru a lot and i had at one point lived with him but when the cops heard it became a big issue. i broke up with him recently because i want him to be able to go and try to be with someone else cause i would feel horrible if he waited for me. but he insist that i'm the one and that he's going to wait for me, and i'm mature for my age when it comes to relationship and i know what i want, and its him. but i cant help but regret telling him to move on and be happy cause it hurts. what should i do to let him know that i love him and i respect the things that he does and that if he really wants to be with me when im 18 then he will wait and i promise i'll be waiting for him back. cause he's no to sure i'll stay single cause he says i have a lot to offer to someone. help? =[
2007-01-05 13:15:02 · 6 answers · asked by Michila Noell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
also please dont critize me nor' him because of the age thing. we made a mistake and we believe that this is our responsibility to do it together. we wanted the whole together thing to be in a relationship but it cant happen that way. i'm looking for nice, mature answers, but honesty. i know what i want. i have a mind of my own and i think of things as if an adult would, im not like any other normal teenager who doesnt think about commitement. i dont say i love you for the heck of it. it took me a long time to tel him i loved him so, i wanted to be sure and i know this is love. and he's my first and i want him to be my only love/lover. he's really a great guy and would have given me and our daughter the world.
2007-01-05 13:19:17 · update #1
Let time work it out if you two are meant to be you will and if not sadly you wont.
2007-01-05 13:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by TwiggyRamirez 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well, on the acount of you convincing him youll wait, you will have to tell him straight forward that he will have to trust you, that you love him and want to be with him and that you will wait. and you have to get that into his head, and the only way to do that is by either telling him enough and hoping that he trusts you enough, and by expressing how much you really love him... you could send him lyrics to a song that talks about a strong love or something.
and, then on the whole you hurting from telling him he can move on if he wants.... well.... thats normal... i mean, you have his baby, and you know that if he would wait for you, you would like that more than if he saw other women or something.... but, telling him that was the right thing to do, and sometimes you have to feel that pain... cause, the courts did sort of set something in stone, ya know? but, since he said he would wait, you should trust his decision, and it seems to me you do, so just be reasonable about it like you have been, and it will be ok. and, besides, even if you both ended up seeing other people, you could still be there for each other when you came of age. but, if you both waited for each other, i think it would mean a lot more when you got back together.
2007-01-05 21:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him and he loves you.
You will have a child together.
The courts will not let you be together, because of your age.
You can be together when you are 18.
You want to wait, he wants to wait.
Wait and get together when you are 18. Then you can get married and be together. Do not break the court order though. You do not want him to go to jail. You will have to wait.
2007-01-05 21:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think if he wants to be there for you and wait around you should let him. Its not just about you and him, its about the child. It sucks you find yourself in that situation, but having a child while young is very difficult, and if he is willing to sacrifice to be with you two you should recieve him with open arms. There are so many single parents in the world, and a lot of mommies and daddies that don't want **** to do with their children...think about it
2007-01-05 21:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him wait for you because you both made the baby and he should sacrifice his life just the way you are doing it. that is the only way he can show you if he really loves you
2007-01-05 21:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by jessi m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to communicate with each other.
2007-01-05 21:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋